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If you read my recent post,  you know that I am passionate about the idea that most relationship break ups are unnecessary. I also took aim at therapists who encourage people to go no-contact with family members without ever having met them.   I heard from many people; most thanked me for my insights, but some chided me for suggesting   that there are any alternatives to going no-contact with so-called "toxic" people.   At once, I began to feel an old familiar feeling that is

I will never forget the woman in my practice who got very angry at her husband when he started pitching in more around the house- cleaning up after dinner, picking up after the kids, stopping at the grocery store occasionally to replenish needed supplies.   Because arguments about spouses not doing their fair share abound in practice, I felt as if I had landed on Mars. “Weird,” I thought.  But I managed to access my inner professional by simply showing curiosity and asking, “

Do you remember the movie, Bambi? Although it was actually made in 1942, many generations of children have seen it since.   I recently thought of Bambi because one of the characters in the movie- Thumper, a baby rabbit- had recited a lesson he had learned from his father, advice that I consider timeless.   "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all."   I wish more people embraced this philosophy!   Now, don't get me wrong, there are times when it's important

When relationships become challenging, we want to understand what’s going on.  We look for causes.  And most of the time, we become convinced that our loved ones are to blame.  We find ourselves thinking, “Our relationship would be easy if it weren’t for you.” Consider our national obsession with identifying whether or not the people in our lives are dysfunctional in some way.  Posts, articles or videos focusing on toxic relationships are more likely to be shared on social me

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