What Would Michele Say? Q & A- How long do affairs last?
Question: How long do affairs last?
What do you do when your spouse gets involved in a romantic affair, and says they’re going to break it off with the affair partner, but doesn’t?
What is the timeline for a romantic affair to “end?” It was exposed to the light of day, but they’re “in love.”
MLC Bystander
Michele’s answer:
By virtue of the fact that your alias is “MLC Bystander” – (midlife crisis), it shows that you understand that your spouse’s mind and body have been temporarily abducted by an alien. Your spouse probably blames you for everything and is totally infatuated with his or her affair partner. Many midlife crises do end eventually as do affairs, but there are no guarantees or guidelines that apply to everyone. It is said that most affairs end within six months when the bloom is off the rose. It usually takes longer for midlife crises to end. The people on the online community on this website say it takes about one month to every year of your marriage. So, you do the math. But in the end, only you can decide the right amount of time to wait for things to turn around,
Hang in there,
Michele
About mwd27
Michele Weiner-Davis, MSW is an internationally renowned relationship expert, best-selling author, marriage therapist, and professional speaker who specializes in helping people change their lives and improve important relationships. Among the first in her field to courageously speak out about the pitfalls of unnecessary divorce, Michele has been active in spearheading the now popular movement urging couples to make their marriages work and keep their families together. She is the author of seven books including her best-selling books, DIVORCE BUSTING: A Step-by-Step Approach to Making Your Marriage Loving Again, and THE SEX-STARVED MARRIAGE: A Couple's Guide to Boosting Their Marriage Libido.
Michele's work has been featured in major newspapers such as the New York Times, Los Angeles Times, Washington Post, Chicago Tribune, Wall Street Journal, and magazines such as Time, Redbook, Ladies Home Journal, Essence, Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Woman's Day, Men's Health, New Woman, and McCall's. Michele is a marriage expert on Redbook's advisory board, ClubMom.com and iVillage.com. She has made countless media appearances on shows such as Oprah, 48 Hours, 20/20, The Today Show, CBS This Morning, CBS Evening News, CNN, and Bill O'Reilly. Michele's Keeping Love Alive program aired on PBS stations nationwide. She recently completed a reality based show for the BBC about helping couples save their marriages.
Michele maintains that her true expertise in helping couples have great relationships is derived from first-hand experience. She and her husband have been married for more than thirty years.
