I didn't say anything about the relationship really. We talked vaguely about it. At the time she said we were actually talking about something else non relationship. She came over for a few minutes earlier today and we were wrestling on the couch. Nothing sexual or anything just playing around. She left started texting me again and like I said we were talking about something non relationship she didn't say anything for a few minutes and all of a sudden she changed the subject and said that.
Yesterday she was saying stuff about that she felt she wasn't good enough for me. When she gets comfortable with someone she runs. That she finds herself missing me alot etc.
A little bit ago me and her brother was talking on facebook and I asked him if there was any kind of drama going on over there because shortly before she told me that she had gotten moody. Should be noted that he didn't know and still doesn't know we had talked about getting back together. A little bit ago me and him was talking about different jobs he could apply for and he said he randomly mentioned that she had added and had been talking to her ex boyfriend before me today. So that could be another reason for her change of heart even. I actually do know this guy. He's an okay guy but lives with his parents,has a kid and no car and only works part time. So what she may be doing is trying to test out other waters and see if I stay close or not.
As far as what happened in her brain that she shifted like that I have no idea. I'm just not really buying into that she talks to me about it yesterday,plays around with me here and then goes home and changes her mind a couple of hours later.
I'm going to keep GAL'ing though and trying to move on with my own life. I can't play this kind of game with her I don't think.
...and he said he randomly mentioned that she had added and had been talking to her ex boyfriend before me today. So that could be another reason for her change of heart even.
ya think...?!
You two were having fun and all chatty... and suddenly she goes all cold on you...
Until you know, you'll never know... it certainly smells of WAS in A behaviour...
Always hate to throw that out there, but someone would...
I can't expect for her behavior to make sense. As someone who hates to be alone it really doesn't surprise me that she would start talking to someone who would be ready to jump into a relationship with her immediately. Not that I know that's happening but I know that is something she will try to do. I'm not willing to just jump back into the marriage head first right now and act as if nothing had happened.
I figure it's a common thing what she is doing now. She found a mate outside her marriage that she thought was what she wanted. he drops her so now she thinks she knows what she is looking for but really to downgrade? I think it's a downgrade anyways considering he has nothing of his own really.
As far as that situation goes typically I would try to talk it to death and today when she said she doesn't feel anything for me I said very little about it today although there was really a lot I wanted to say just to try to understand it but no matter what she says it still wouldn't make sense.
I know she expects me to be there at her beck and call and for her to be the priority in my life but the truth of the matter is I can't allow her to be. So I will make myself not readily available to her once again.
I had drifted pretty far away from her so I figure this is just her way of trying to keep me within arms reach. She said she doesn't want me to walk away because she still cares about me. She said that when she told me she doesn't feel anything for me.
Tomorrow I will continue my usual activities. Jogging in the morning and hang out with friends tomorrow evening.
I haven't talked to her at all today. Went jogging this morning. Went to the store and ended up talking to a cashier there for a little bit. very quiet but interesting girl nonetheless. Went and hung out with a friend of mine for a little while. Was hanging out there and my WAW sent me a random text saying She cares about me but doesn't want to talk to me anymore it's too stressful no idea what brought that on but there it was nonetheless. I didn't really know what to say to it so I said nothing at all.
Thought I would update a bit. haven't talked to my WaW wife at all since my last post. She hasn't said anything and neither have I. My life as usual has hit a speed bump though. I had started talking to two girls. One was cool but more of a friend really so I suggested to her that that's all we be. The other was very interesting and we both had been talking on the phone and through facebook about what we want out of relationships and such and made her aware of my situation. We decided to give things a try yesterday and went out on a date. Which culminated back at my place. She made the move I wasn't planning on anything like that. When I dropped her off she suggested that we go out again and I told her I would like to see her again. So of course she doesn't talk to me today and makes a post on her facebook wall that she's chilling at home after an interesting couple of day lol!! ...so we'll see what happens there. I might have been just a one night stand...back to the drawing board I guess
Been awhile since I been on here but was thinking about the site and thought I should update.
I haven't talked to my WaW wife in a couple of months now. Not since I served her with the divorce papers Prior to that she had been contacting me frequently wanting to get back together. To which each time I turned her down. I was honestly appalled by her suggesting that especially when she was talking to me about wanting to get back together she was still with the guy she left me for but claiming "they want different things" my reply was simple. Break up with him and find someone that wants the same things as you. My thought process is simple on it. She's with someone while she's talking to me about getting back together. That to me doesn't reflect any kind of change or growth and will inevitably lead back to the same path. Aside from that I am actually dating a woman for a few months now and things are going really well. She's the complete opposite of me. Which made me nervous at first but I'm finding that the more different we are the more new things we have to introduce to the other whether it be how you approach a problem,music,art...etc. I've been digging into playing music a lot now as well. I've actually laid down a few tracks with a buddy of mine not too long ago.
When I first came to these forums I was in a really bad way but due to talking to a lot of you and of course following the advice in the book my life is really getting back onto track. There are some rough days still where I will start wondering if my new girlfriend will treat me the same way as my WaW and I end up having to take a step back and remind myself that this isn't her.
For all the help you all have given me I cannot express how thankful I am that this forum exists.
no idea what brought that on but there it was nonetheless. I didn't really know what to say to it so I said nothing at all.
lol!