Venting: The thing that really bothers me about my w. Is that I can do a million things right, amazing, good for her but the one time I make a mistake, that’s what she focuses on. I feel like I am constantly under a microscope. We have been together 19 years gone on so many amazing trips, had a lot of party’s, a lot of great family experiences, a million laughs. Yet she will bring up the few mistakes I made. No cheating, abuse, drugs, alcohol or gambling. Mistakes like a misunderstanding, walking out of the house when we got in a heated argument, or not being loving every second of every day. Yet theses are the things she focuses on and continues to throw in my face. Her memory is perfect for mistakes but “doesn’t” remember all the good. It just drives me nuts. Still venting: my w said something last night that just shows how out of touch she is with reality. She said when she got married she thought everything was going to be perfect. That right there sets any person up for failure. With expectations like that there is nothing but let downs, work, kids, bills, family. Problems will come up, that’s life, but I guess when you expect everything to be “perfect” how does one handle imperfection? Maybe cry, scream, run, fight, steal, divorce n o matter the person the response will not be good, because they feel like they failed. They feel like they failed because they did not reach “perfection”. How does one find happiness in an imperfect world when all they expect in perfection? Again just venting. Thanks
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M:42 XW:41 T:19 M: 15 D:13 S:10 BD: 8/10/18 Moved out: 8/18 Moved in: 9/18/18 Moved out: 4/22/19 D papers signed 11/4/19 D final 3/18/20
