Today I almost lost my wedding ring. I've lost so much weight that combined with the cold weather, it doesn't really fit me anymore. I see that I have a couple options. First, I can get it resized. Second, I can stop wearing it (W has hers off.). Third, I can get wear it around my neck on a necklace. I'm not sure that I want to go through the hassle and expense of getting it resized without knowing that my W wants to for sure work on things. I've already told myself that I would keep wearing it. Do you all think that it would be cheesy to wear it around my neck? I'm not really sure what else to do. Is it expensive to get a ring resized? Kind of a strange situation to find myself in. I'm glad that I didn't loose it though...
Peace, B
Me: 29 W: 28 T: 10 M: 7 No kids 2 Dogs and 1 Cat With Parents: 09/16/07 Apartment: 10/13/07 Back Home: ~2/16/2008
if it was me i would have it resized, it is an act of faith. i recently thought about taking it off, but i refuse to give up so soon. i made a committment, just because my waw has forgotten her's right now, doesn't change my commitment. but that is just me. do what you feel is right.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
Congratulations on your weight loss, how much? I've lost over 55lbs myself. Started before WAW/MLC problems. Had quad bypass 10/15/07 and lost 13 since.
I would continue to wear your ring, I still do out of respect for the vows I took. I have never worn it at work, I work in an industry where I could lose my finger if I got it caught in some machinery or across a live electrical circuit.
I was wearing W's ring around my neck for a while, to keep it close to my heart. I've since stopped because it's the ring I gave her for our 25yr anniv, she left it when she left. It was a $8k ring.
Mike
M 51 W 49 S26 S25 D24 D19 Married 27 yrs T over 30 S 7/12 D-bomb 9/26
Thanks for the input guys. I do plan on still wearing it, so I guess I'll break down and get it resized. I think that it would be a good act of faith. Not wearing it wasn't really an option for me.
So far I've lost 40 odd pounds, but I started losing weight before she left. I've probably lost 25 since she walked. I now weigh less than I did when I first met her and 15 pounds less than when we got married. At first I was loosing it because I couldn't eat and I was pretty depressed. Now I continue to loose it because I'm taking better care of myself and exercising. I'd like to lose another 10.
Thanks again, B
Me: 29 W: 28 T: 10 M: 7 No kids 2 Dogs and 1 Cat With Parents: 09/16/07 Apartment: 10/13/07 Back Home: ~2/16/2008
i have lost 20lbs , stress. but have not felt this good for 20yrs. i weigh 157lbs. like i said feel great. good job on the ring. i think you will more at peace.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
B, Nothing like the stress to melt away the baby weight! Unfortunately I started to lose it while I was still pregnant since H dropped bomb at 8 mths. Good news I'm already back to my pre-pregnancy weight after only 5 wks...now my goal is 10 more lbs to get back to pre-first pregnancy weight!
Anyway...I took my rings off and threw them at H when he dropped the bomb and told me he was in love with OW. Haven't put them on since. I HATE not wearing them, but I wouldn't feel right wearing them right now anyway. My H is so adamant that it is over I'm sure it would push him even further away if I was to wear them anyway. If you want to wear it...wear it. I say good for you!! Has she ever said anything to you about the fact that you're still wearing it? J~
M 35 H 29 M 4 yrs T 9 yrs D 3 S born 10/19/07 Bomb 09/10/07 Separated next day OW - broke up and H moved out 09/07/08 Status - still figuring this out
bhopeful, nothing like stress for a little weight control. You have taken off a lot of lbs.
I would have the ring resized, as an act of faith. I know I have to have mine resized and H has taken his off. Shouldn't cost to much to have ring sized $30-$50. would seem like a normal range. of course depends on where you live as well.
-Love of dogs, every time I loose a dog to the bridge,part of my heart goes too. Ever time a puppy/dog comes into my life,he gives me a part of his heart. If live my life long enough, in time I'll have the heart of a puppy. -unknown (w/character limit)
I, too, felt the huge knot in the stomach the first time I saw wife without her ring. Like micoms, I can't wear mine at work so never really wore it, but have taken to wearing it on a necklace. I've also lost 40+ lbs, I started a diet 6 days before she dropped bomb. I feel better, look better, have a new set of clothes to wear once again and even catch wife checking out the tummy on occasion. Of course, not like she's "checking me out" mind you, just noticing that the Dunlop Don't lop quite as far as it used to.
Me:46 Her:40 Daughter:7 She Dropped Bomb:10/7/07 She Filed Papers w/State:10/30/07 I Left Home:11/11/07 I Moved Back In:11/13/07 My Outlook: I want nothing more than a future together and will do whatever it takes. Her Outlook: Been too long coming, I'm done.
