Just noticed that my last thread locked. So, starting numero 9. Guess I'll make the move to Seperated at some point, but, I'll stick here for a bit longer.
Quick thumbnail: Mawmaw died at beginning of month. Went to Louisiana to say goodbye. Looking back, I had been on my way to being fairly detached, losing someone close made me realize, again, how much I love my W. Got knocked off kilter a bit, backslide and invited her to Thanksgiving and ended up having a conversation about our R and Once (and Future?) OM. Last weekend, went to a meetup thing in Frederick. Good conversation and a little light flirting -- got a card from one of the ladies and an invite to hang at a bar with one of the others later that evening. Talking to a friend last night and he said the card give was, well, I can't say his exact words, but he said it's a sign of interest. OK, my radar is busted, but I did email her earlier today asking about some other groups she had mentioned that sounded fun.
Anyway, I'm just avoiding work. Did I mention that my cat is very cool.
Noting something new from W: asked if she could bring the girls tonight instead of me picking them up because she wanted to go by Target (which is this way). The new thing is that she doesn't usually say where she's going. Anyway, nothing major. Just noting.
BD
My latest
Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
Glad you're back up with a new thread. The meetup sounds cool---good to see you trying something new.
I also think it's a good sign that W is comfortable enough not to hide from you where she's going. Your challenge, should you choose to accept it, is to ignore that gesture and continue to give her even more space than you think she wants. You game?
W hung out for a bit, played with the cat. Had a few laughs because he's a funny little bugger. She offered to help me clip his nails, which was nice. Seeing as he's big boned, might have to take her up on that offer.
Just a note for anyone new to this increasingly long series of threads -- give your spouse space. Don't have a R talk. It doesn't work. Remember these words, from my W, regarding talk about the "relationship":
"Everytime you opened your mouth, it's like fingernails on a blackboard."
Just do yourselves all a favor and practice shutting up.
BD
My latest
Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
Sounds like you had a pleasant interaction with W, which is great. Remember not to let it suck you back into R talk or anything of the like. Like Puddle says -- this is your mission.
No, but she called me 3x yesterday and was really "sweet" because she needed a favor. Made my stomach turn to think about it. Only when she needs something, I swear. I think the trial is going to go real well. I meet with my atty tomorrow to prepare. Trial is on Friday.
Wife did a nice thing, offered to bring the girls here tonight rather than me having to go pick them up because she knows that I hate driving in the snow. I'll drive through a hurricane without anything other than mild concern, snow freaks me out and she knows that (and the van does better in the snow than the car).
Man, I hate snow.
BD
My latest
Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
