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#1381818 03/09/08 05:33 AM
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Yeah I am so excited, I locked myself for the first time. Now I feel all DB official.

As for the Snap On box, I never got on him about it. I always knew it as well as the tools were a bill we would always have as that was his job and how he made a living. You can't get me on that one and if youwere to ask him honestly he would agree that I never harped about that bill.

The test, well the last post I did...if I were to break it down and self test I would see it as me realizing that in letting go and distancing he was finally able to feel comfortable with me??? Am I close? Honestly FG I am lost with that and don't get the test thing. Don't be an A** about it, help me out. Hey, if I let go of my emotion's he comes to me? Ummmm if he doesn't feel I am nagging or wanting to talk about us he loosens up? Are any of these HOT or am I still COLD?

P.S. H has the raspberry and gold limited edition one that came out about 5-7 years ago with the big eagle on the underside of the lid and has the full size side cabinet on it. It is taller than I am and he can live in it...lol. I think it ran something like $14k new then. Oh and our son has the Matco limited edition Spider Man toolbox for a dresser that was $4k and we finally paid it off about 2 years ago.


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Here is a link to your first thread.

You are going to get there. It just takes time, and in the meantime, you have to just live your life with your precious kids like they are all you have in your family. What activities are you doing with S8 to help him cope with the loss of his fathers attention? I would suggest the cub scouts if you have the time. How is D5 handling this? You really need to focus most of your energy on the kids right now. Everything else will hopefully fall in place.

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Speaking as a dad and a leader, Cub Scouts can be great for you and your son to bond in a different way. If you have the time a Kerry pointed out. Me and my son really enjoy it tons and it is something that the W and I have agreed is good father son time. Moms are leaders too. In fact, in our den, I would say half of them are always brought by their moms.

Aside from the scouting side, you do need to focus on your kids. They are at the age where they will be looking for your reaction to this whole ordeal. Be very careful how you deal with them. Do not ask them about time with dad. Do not use them as weapons. Be he greatest person that you can be for them. And above all, be consistent and strong for them. Kids are not stupid, they know and realize things that we do not know. Be positive and strong around them, they will appreciate it.


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I will say that although my last thread probably made people think the kids are being forgotten about, trust me they haven't.

S8 is struggling but I work everyday to keep him into things and D5 seems to be on a fairly even keel. S8 is seeing a therapist and pshyciatrist. He simply doesn't trust daddy now and sometimes tells him he hates him and daddy told him he can accept that and that his anger should be directed at him and not mommy or his sister or anyone else but daddy.

I am as mentioned previously working this past week on things that can improve me and have improved me so that the kids also see a happier mommy which in turn will rub off on them.

Anyway, Kerry, thanks for the link. How do I get it so I can stick it in my sig. line?


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Wow! You got your thread locked. I am still waiting for mine to do that.

I wanted you to know that I am still thinking and praying for your kids.

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Heather -

You can use what is below for your current thread to your sig, however, you might need to shorten some other info in your sig as it has a limited number of characters:

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[url=http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1381818]Current[/url]

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I can understand your worry about what the breakdown in your M is going to leave on your children. This is without a doubt the hardest part of this. If it were not for my kids, I would have gotten my M over with quite a while ago.

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S8 is seeing a therapist and pshyciatrist. He simply doesn't trust daddy now and sometimes tells him he hates him and daddy told him he can accept that and that his anger should be directed at him and not mommy or his sister or anyone else but daddy.

I had a talk several month ago with our cubmaster who has been divorced for quite a while. His son (who is a great kid) had some real problems with women for some time following the divorce. His lack of respect for women was so bad that the cubmaster had to find an after school daycare which was run by a man. I am just saying this as your S8 may have a similar view towards men right now.

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Kerry-

Thanks I went and did it. Yippee, now I have a CURRENT in my sig. The littlest things excite me...lol.


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MMB,

I remember how excited I was when I managed to put my current in my siggy too! Now I wonder how people list multiple threads in their siggy.. mine always says there isn't enough space.

I'm enjoying your conversations with FG.. but like you I need the kindergarden version because there were many times I was wondering what he was talking about.. hopefully what he's telling you can somehow work for me in my sitch.. 'cause any forward movement would be appreciated.


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I too enjoy FG's responses. His Star Wars one had me laughing hysterically.

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