another date set today!

[jandn]

Well, it wasnt too bad of a day. Was just a date for judge to see how things were progressing and set a trial date if it goes that far which is set up for middle of Nov. Guess that means I have to work my a$$ off and not backslide anymore.

My L, W's L, and me was only present. I didnt get to go behind doors and meet the judge, L just wanted me to go to get a feel for it and plus was a time to question him since I was paying him anyways. L told me how he told the judge about episodes W has had and showed pictures (i think he did--he had pics before he went in there that I gave to him when I hired him that I saw him going through). L said she tried to fire back that I have done the same (but W and I got it dismissed although W was at more fault than me and I had to look like the badguy). Its funny how they work. W's L walks in and they say hi and everything and talk about other things. Then they talk about issues between W and I. Her L didnt know I could hear her until my L said that I was there. Overheard her L talking about getting her stuff out of the house.

They walk out and her L smiles and says hello like she knows me (cause we have meet before in court earlier this year) so I say it back. Talk to L about whats been going on, and he tells me not even worried about getting her things. That I need to get that paper work filled out to give him a better outlook on things. He also tells me that there might be depositions for each party and telling me that it would be under oath about stuff that has happened during the M. Hopefully if that happens, W gets to admit and realizes what has happened on her part. Also tells me how low my child support is right now, and how he told judge we arent happy with the time with the kids.

Did text W the date with a smile and not expecting a response. Maybe not the best thing to do, not pissed or anything.

[Brandon Kirk]

You should probably slack off a lot on your job in order to earn less income. That way when the court decides how much you need to shell out to your wife for child custody you monthly payments will be lower. Besides, your kid(s) will be staying with you too right? Isn't it bullshit how this country thinks that it is the husband's job to pay for the wife's home, when he has to house his child too? Yea the monthly payments can be reassessed, but maybe you can work another job without the government knowing.

[jandn]

Oh I have a lot since first of year. Was no problem to work all I could while W was there and always seemed I needed to. I pretty much have them half the time, but think can only get a 34% credit in this state, and I make twice as much as W. L said he is going to avg the past 3.5 years of income and go off that. I gonna have to put my foot down on that cause I have got different opinions and got a very good idea.

[jandn]

Also is there any good threads on here that the WAW hated her H so much and they fought and fought during the D that she finally come to? I need some support like that so I dont give up. Just think W is never going to give up on this and push it all the way until its done.

[jandn]

While I was on here posting, dont get good reception, W calls leaves a msg about when we can get together and talk about what she can have out of the house. Of course, the comment had to be made "not what and when you decide to bring over at your discretion". Always use to tell me the comments I made, and seems W is always trying to nab something out at me when she gets in touch with me any form she uses. Last night it was "well, usually you drop them off at 6" So I say ok I we have stuff to do for an hour, then she says no make it 5 (ten minutes from 5 is when that talk took place). Like people been saying, I just let it roll off my back and dont fire back with anything.

Do I need to point this out in a cordial way? Really tired of taking her crap so I dont even want to be in contact with her and just ignore her.

[jandn]

On way home get a text *call me* talks about changing days like i had said at one time so wouldnt have to go 5 days w o seeing them. She wanted the same every week. Then ends with *just plz call* Betting L talked to her today!

[jandn]

Then W called in the evening and didnt leave a vm. So a while later W sends text "if you call there is something I would like you to bring when you bring kids over Wed morning". Didnt reply just let it be. Was doing other stuff. Funny how our court date was yesterday, and now W is trying and trying to get a hold of me. Maybe I am wrong and W wants to have R talk. Doubt it though, too many signs point to finalizing D but is still early I guess. Just want to hold W and know everything is going to be alright but just doesnt seem possible.

[jandn]

Welp, got a phone call from relator and kinda expected it after this weekend. She left msg saying have an offer need to get you and W together and present it to you Sat. Didnt say how much so I think its less than what we paid for it 3.5 years ago. Bout 5 minutes later get text from W "We got offer on house!We really need to talk (my name). About this and other things. Please return my call today:-)"

So guess I will call relator at lunch and find out how much, and maybe call W tonight. This is going to be a fight I know on if we should accept it and how much equity we are going to split.

[jandn]

I wonder if I should make it a point to W that there is no more "we". Always saying we need to do this or we need to do that. We need to be a family IMO! Afraid I will catch myself saying it though, like I have in some posts, but just wanted to throw it out there that W and I are only bonded by our kids.

[pegasus]

In my opinion and it's just that, as long as they are saying we there is a part of their subconscious that is still thinking we. My WAW notice she was doing that and unfortunately decided she needed to quit saying it.