update tonight. Got off work and to the dentist was in the chair for 1 1/2hrs. Had a crown removed, the tooth had a root canal done on it about a month ago, so I had to have the crown removed, impression taken for a new crown...long time in the chair, but part, NO NOVACAINE..the tooth had a root canal so no nerve. Out of the dentist office and over to the house to work for a few minutes..I got the light switch and outlets replaced in the master bedroom, then helped my BIL figure out the wiring for the switch in the bathroom. Changes switches and outlets has become a pain. The old ones are from the 1950's and of course the new ones are different so it can suck till you figure it out. I only got to work on it about 1.5 hrs. I'm going in early in the morning and will get off early so I can run over and work on it some more.
Got home around 7:45..had a pretty heated exchange with STBX. Lots of anger boiling up from her and me. It's to be expected I think. I won't be here much this week and will be staying somewhere Friday night if I can find a place to stay. May just have to throw an air mattress in the old house and try it out.
Trying to get the house fixed is frustrating and slow. Spending my time there is taking away from D and my workout time..
It's a mess any way you look at it..the house, the sitch, STBX, new dogs, me...it's a f'in mess...FUBAR is what it is..
Just go on and do what I have to do is all I can do.
IT is what IT is..as my 2x4 brother from another mother would say...Right Ian??
update tonight. Got off work and to the dentist was in the chair for 1 1/2hrs. Had a crown removed, the tooth had a root canal done on it about a month ago, so I had to have the crown removed, impression taken for a new crown...long time in the chair, but part, NO NOVACAINE..the tooth had a root canal so no nerve. Out of the dentist office and over to the house to work for a few minutes..I got the light switch and outlets replaced in the master bedroom, then helped my BIL figure out the wiring for the switch in the bathroom. Changes switches and outlets has become a pain. The old ones are from the 1950's and of course the new ones are different so it can suck till you figure it out. I only got to work on it about 1.5 hrs. I'm going in early in the morning and will get off early so I can run over and work on it some more.
Got home around 7:45..had a pretty heated exchange with STBX. Lots of anger boiling up from her and me. It's to be expected I think. I won't be here much this week and will be staying somewhere Friday night if I can find a place to stay. May just have to throw an air mattress in the old house and try it out.
Trying to get the house fixed is frustrating and slow. Spending my time there is taking away from D and my workout time..
It's a mess any way you look at it..the house, the sitch, STBX, new dogs, me...it's a f'in mess...FUBAR is what it is..
Just go on and do what I have to do is all I can do.
IT is what IT is..as my 2x4 brother from another mother would say...Right Ian??
TOMORROW IS A NEW DAY..
Brother...
As a son of a dentist kudo's to you sitting in the chair that long nerve or no nerve still a long time...
Redoin a house of that age takes time, patience with yourself all in good time...
Sorry your D2 & workouts have suffered, but I KNOW being the man you are that will be made up in short time so best now to give her a house to be comfy in that's important...
Tensions are high right now cause you are in a hurry to get out and W is just W let it roll off a ducks back at this point...
I am not sure but think I coined "it is what it is" LOL!!
You are on a good path for the moment give yourself time dude...
Tensions are high right now cause you are in a hurry to get out and W is just W let it roll off a ducks back at this point...
I'm afraid the ole duck's back is gone tonight. I said some stuff that should not have been said. That's the way the old ball bounces. I don't have anything for her, I no longer feel anything for her..nada, nothing. nil..as a matter of fact I don't even care about her anymore..
She's a liar. She's out to decimate my retirement and 401k accounts. She is just like my first ex to the letter..I'll be glad to get away and start over..
IT is what IT is..as my 2x4 brother from another mother would say...Right Ian??
Yes sir.... exactly....
Now to this not being able to hold your tongue thing.
What she does or does not do doesn't matter and you know it from your first wife. Let your lawyer fight your battles. That does not mean kiss her asss, it simply means do not allow yourself to show her anything emotionally.
Your anger gives her the satisfaction of knowing that the things she is doing are affecting you. DO NOT GIVE HER THE SATISFACTION.
Mike, you are clear on where you are at. You know what direction all of this is heading. So from now on we focus on getting you to your destination as peacefully and with as much of your hair left as possible.
Be the stand up guy that you are. Show your kids what a real man does when faced with controversy. Your son is getting married soon right? So right now is your opportunity to teach him what to do if god forbid he find himself in your situation.
Your W does not deserve to know that she is still impacting you. Suck it up when you are around her and show her that your life is going to be spectacular without her.
Again, let me make this very clear, I am not getting on you for where you are at.I completely understand it. I want you to walk away with all of your dignity intact. No regrets or bad feelings because you let her have it when you didnt need to. You are stronger than her, remember that.
My wish for you, when your daughter grows up, and hopefully your wife to. Your wife will look to her D and tell her what a stand up guy you were and how she blew it.
M fr TN I would appreciate a guy's perspective. Can you check out my thread if you have time? Peace. p.s. The porno name thread on Friday had me in stiches. TY for the comic relief.
Me:44, WAW hx bi-polar H:48, hx of abuse S:22, S:19, D:16 Filed Oct 08, dismissed Filed again Jan 10, dismissed Now Piecing alter persona: SuperBoots
IT is what IT is..as my 2x4 brother from another mother would say...Right Ian??
Yes sir.... exactly....
Now to this not being able to hold your tongue thing.
What she does or does not do doesn't matter and you know it from your first wife. Let your lawyer fight your battles. That does not mean kiss her asss, it simply means do not allow yourself to show her anything emotionally.
Your anger gives her the satisfaction of knowing that the things she is doing are affecting you. DO NOT GIVE HER THE SATISFACTION.
Mike, you are clear on where you are at. You know what direction all of this is heading. So from now on we focus on getting you to your destination as peacefully and with as much of your hair left as possible.
Be the stand up guy that you are. Show your kids what a real man does when faced with controversy. Your son is getting married soon right? So right now is your opportunity to teach him what to do if god forbid he find himself in your situation.
Your W does not deserve to know that she is still impacting you. Suck it up when you are around her and show her that your life is going to be spectacular without her.
Again, let me make this very clear, I am not getting on you for where you are at.I completely understand it. I want you to walk away with all of your dignity intact. No regrets or bad feelings because you let her have it when you didnt need to. You are stronger than her, remember that.
My wish for you, when your daughter grows up, and hopefully your wife to. Your wife will look to her D and tell her what a stand up guy you were and how she blew it.
Ian
I know Ian I know. Jesus, Mary and Joseph She made me so F'in mad. I said something, I hate I said it.
but I can't dwell on that.
I know she's said things in anger that she did not truly mean and I have too.
damn it.
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No regrets or bad feelings because you let her have it when you didnt need to
I guess the thing is, I don't feel like what I said was letting her have it when I did not need to. I felt she got what she deserved.
But I know that way of thinking is wrong also..
Awe Hell, what cha gonna do?? What's done is done.
