I've posted 6 times in the last 3 days (reflected in my profile), started my own thread, the rest were replies---I can't see anything I've posted. When I go to "My Stuff" >>> "Posts", nothing.
Is there a set number of posts I need to make in order to get out of moderation, waiting for a mod to have time to be online to clear stuff is hard. No other forums I am a part of moderate in this specific way, so I am clueless.
me: 30 H:30 tgthr:7 m:4 no kids 5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012 long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012 official BD: July 2013 nothing filed 1/1/14 I dropped the rope
How did you do it? When I add even one character, I get a message that my signature is too long! Does it have something to do with being on moderation?
Thanks Linda M
I believe that you need a minumum number of posts to have a signature.
It might be 10, but I am not totally sure of the number.
Your signature ability happens concurrently with your approval as a member/poster. There is no set number of posts. It occurs with a good posting history.
I am a new poster, and I have to find a little humour in this. I think a partof what got my marriage not trouble is not having enough patience.....so having to wait for post approval is a small step in learning a bit of patience. ;-)
I apologize for whatever I did that caused me to be placed on moderation. I did read the rules and thought that my posts were within them; apparently I was incorrect. I will be sure to post nothing even remotely questionable in the future. Please, please would you be so kind as to take me off moderation? This board has been my lifeline through the most difficult time in my life, and if I may say so, I think that my support has been valuable to others as well. As I am sure you are aware, it is difficult to give and receive advice and support when on moderation.
Thank you for your consideration.
melissag
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
How would one know if they were on moderation? I have posted several times recently and even days later I don't see my messages show up. I'm guessing I haven't been approved yet. I take it we just wait and keep sending out posts and eventually...?
M: 43 W: 43 Married 6 yrs. T: 7 yrs. Son 20, 18, 17, 15 yrs. (w/ Autism), 12, 10
I've got a list of 'resources for feeling better' my therapist gave me that may be of use to people, particularly newcomers. There are about 2 pages of them. A couple of examples are:
Keep a gratitude journal: brain research shows that daly writing down 5 things we are grateful for improves brain functioning and elevates mood.
Go for a walk / move your body even if just for a minute! Moving physically moves us emotionally - this is why it is called emotion.
Would this be allowed? And if so where should I post it?
M: 57 / EW: 52 T: 21, M: 8 S: 18, S: 15 Bomb: 1 Jun 14 EA Aug 2014 I think PA Feb 2015 possibly sooner
