Hell, I don't know what she's attracted to; just what people here have said is attractive to women. Strong, confident, happy, sexy. The only thing I have to go by is what she told our first MC: I was kind, I gave her lots of attention, and I was smart.
Hell, I don't know what she's attracted to; just what people here have said is attractive to women. Strong, confident, happy, sexy. The only thing I have to go by is what she told our first MC: I was kind, I gave her lots of attention, and I was smart.
Hell, I don't know what she's attracted to; just what people here have said is attractive to women. Strong, confident, happy, sexy. The only thing I have to go by is what she told our first MC: I was kind, I gave her lots of attention, and I was smart.
Are you about to change that?
I've been kind for the last two months; I've given her plenty of attention as well. Smart? Not so much sometimes!
If I move out this week, then she'll lose out on all three.
Hell, I don't know what she's attracted to; just what people here have said is attractive to women. Strong, confident, happy, sexy. The only thing I have to go by is what she told our first MC: I was kind, I gave her lots of attention, and I was smart.
Are you about to change that?
I've been kind for the last two months; I've given her plenty of attention as well. Smart? Not so much sometimes!
If I move out this week, then she'll lose out on all three.
The final cut.
I have been avoiding that especially lately. But I may have to do that too, to move things forward.
She called me up at noon to invite me out to lunch; I was just finishing a tour of an apt. and said that lunch would be nice. Lunch was good, I'm always up for Mexican food.
What we were going to do was dessert. I told her that I thought staying together for the girls would be a bad idea. That we'd be setting the wrong example for them about what a healthy relationship is supposed to look like. I don't want my daughters thinking roommates and fsckbuddies are a normal marriage.
She's as screwed up as I was after the Bomb. Clinging to any idea to stay together. Says that if we weren't in so much debt, she thinks she'd be able to separate her thoughts. Says she leans on me so much, depends on my companionship, my help as a father.
I told her about the apt, and another one I inquired about. She thinks that it would be a waste of money to have two households. Which is true if we were reconciling, but not in our sitch.
Hell, I don't know what she's attracted to; just what people here have said is attractive to women. Strong, confident, happy, sexy. The only thing I have to go by is what she told our first MC: I was kind, I gave her lots of attention, and I was smart.
Are you about to change that?
I've been kind for the last two months; I've given her plenty of attention as well. Smart? Not so much sometimes!
If I move out this week, then she'll lose out on all three.
The final cut.
I have been avoiding that especially lately. But I may have to do that too, to move things forward.
Aye. I know I need to lead, even if financially it makes little sense. But for my sanity, I have to. Money isn't everything.
Hell, I don't know what she's attracted to; just what people here have said is attractive to women. Strong, confident, happy, sexy. The only thing I have to go by is what she told our first MC: I was kind, I gave her lots of attention, and I was smart.
Hi Pinhead,
It looks like you need to detach from the outcome. I strongly suggest that you focus on becoming attractive to women in general.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
I don't even think it's intimacy we need. Attraction is what's needed.
Most women suddenly get VERY attracted to a man who walks away with his head held high knowing and realizing that he is a "great catch" and that he not only DESERVES a woman who is mad about him, but will GET one..
Your own lack of self confidence in what she really is giving up is what is holding back reconciliation. LET HER GO.. YOUR CHOICE.. YOU be the letting go leader..
MAKE her chase you... You have NEVER given her the chance to see how she really feels about you.. Give her that freedom and give her that chance. Hold the line. . Show her a man who chooses NOT to be with a woman who isn't attracted to him. They both deserve better.
