a girl, im sorry you had to find out about the OW.
You need to listen to the DB coach, there are some positives, he is still affectionate, he still interacts with you. The divorce talk is just that, divorce. In his mind at the moment, he is finished with the marriage.
Keep doing the DB strategy for you, keep moving forward and showing your husband what it is he loved about you enough to marry you in the first place.
Are you sure he has stopped all contact with the OW? if he did, then you have to ask yourself why? we cant read his mind, but maybe he sees some of what he loved about you in the beginning.
Your doing well. Keep strong and moving forward. Never give up hope, baby steps!
I am sorry that you are feeling down tonight. These roller coaster of emotions can really take it's toll on a person after a while. I wish there was a way to take away your pain.
My C once told me that in the midst of the pain, that is also the most growth. You are hurting, but you are growing even if you don't realize it.
Don't let H take your spirit. You are way too valuable for that.
"Everyone you meet has baggage. Find someone who loves you enough to help you unpack." �Formerly DelinquentGurl�
Are you sure he has stopped all contact with the OW? if he did, then you have to ask yourself why? we cant read his mind, but maybe he sees some of what he loved about you in the beginning.
Your doing well. Keep strong and moving forward. Never give up hope, baby steps!
Thanks. I basically told him he had to stop contact for the sake of our son. He was angry, but agreed. I'm in contact with the OW husband, so we can help each other make sure there is no contact.
Jody did say it sounded hopeful - he still sleeps in the bed (although he never touches me) and i guess she thought that was noteworthy.
I just can't get over how fast he wants to divorce.
H: 39, Me: 37 SD: 18, S: 7 M: 9, T: 10 "I love you but am not in love with you" - 5/11 Discovered online affair - 7/11
I am sorry that you are feeling down tonight. These roller coaster of emotions can really take it's toll on a person after a while. I wish there was a way to take away your pain.
My C once told me that in the midst of the pain, that is also the most growth. You are hurting, but you are growing even if you don't realize it.
Don't let H take your spirit. You are way too valuable for that.
Thank you. You really are a candle in a dark sea.
H: 39, Me: 37 SD: 18, S: 7 M: 9, T: 10 "I love you but am not in love with you" - 5/11 Discovered online affair - 7/11
Your welcome. This place has been my savior. Everyone here gets it, we're all in one big general boat together. Some circumstances are different of course, but the pain is pretty much the same.
I know it's hard to imagine right now, but some day you will look back on this time in your life and think "Look what I got through" and it will be an amazing feeling.
"Everyone you meet has baggage. Find someone who loves you enough to help you unpack." �Formerly DelinquentGurl�
I just can't get over how fast he wants to divorce.
Most likely the romance / addiction...
Time is your friend... and with every passing hour and day that he isn't D'd (he probably has no idea how long that will take or how much effort) may be that extra time it takes for him to sloooowwww down... and realize...
Jody did say it sounded hopeful - he still sleeps in the bed (although he never touches me) and i guess she thought that was noteworthy.
Trust your DB coach. They see this stuff all the time. They're the experts. Look for the positives.
Originally Posted By: a girl
I just can't get over how fast he wants to divorce.
I'll echo what KD said. Time really is your friend. I heard that at the beginning and I wanted to believe it, but it was hard. I'm still here and standing 5 months later. Still fightin'
Hang in there girl. We're behind you here and we're pulling for you!
