Good luck Thorn. As I suggested in another thread somewhere...I might suggest headphones and a selection of tunes from before you even knew who your WAW was. I find it incredibly comforting...one of the few things that brings me comfort. It forces my mind to a time before my WAW...when yes, I was happy with life. Give it try my friend...I'd love to hear that it works for you.
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14
I feel like I'm in limbo because I don't beleive this is what WAW really wants.
^^ This is keeping you stuck. Doesn't matter what your W wants or what you believe. All of that can change in a month or 3 months. This is major mindreading on your part.
You're right Wonka. Ive seen several instances on this board where things have changed rather rapidly.
I realize that I need to let her go if there's ever going to be a chance of her wanting to come back.
I think it was Sandi that said she noticed that the LBS that won their WAW's back, almost all of them reached a point where the dropped the rope. They actually beleived the M was dead. That's when the WAW started to express an interest in reconciliation.
Talking about the M being dead feels counterintuitive. But look at it from the WAW's perspective, if she felt like she was dying inside, how loving is it for you to invite her back to THAT?! Considering the M dead doesn't mean you're done DBing - not by a long shot!
Good to hear your GAL - that is essential to your success! If you don't treat you as valuable, why should anyone else? Write your bucket list, find what puts a bounce in your step and pursue it. My guess is that you were just being you when you won her the first time, right?
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Feeling a little more solid today. I'm focusing and forcing myself to beleive that I have no control over my sitch. All I can do is focus on doing my job today, going to the gym, and spending time with my daughter this evening.
I still feel a little anxiety today but it's not as bad as what I've been going through.
Good work, take your babysteps. While you are at it, make sure you get a good dose of laughter every day! Jim Gaffigan, Josh Blue, Tim Hawkins - whoever cracks you up. It's a quick and easy mood lifter.
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