Am I on the right track? (3)

[wmwb123]

Yep. I've delayed and stalled the best I could, by there's not a lot left I can do. My L says we can probably delay until next year.

[wmwb123]

I've read that divorce itself puts pressure on affairs, so who knows, maybe I can have a story like Crimson.

[Wonka]

I've read that divorce itself puts pressure on affairs, so who knows, maybe I can have a story like Crimson.

I like how you're trying to make lemonade with the lemons you've been handed by W and how you think! Yeah..Crimson is quite a story, isn't he?

[GoatGal]

Wm, Wonka,

It's hard to believe that in some places, one can get a divorce in 60 days like it's trading in your car.

That is no time at all for people to think things through, and personally I think a timeline like that is very destructive for families, and children who pay the price of decisions that are often made in haste, and for all the worst reasons.


Sorry for you wm...

-(G)GGG

[Georgiabelle]

Wonka and GGG,

And 30 days in some states. The return policy for some stores is longer than that. Yikes!

[wmwb123]

Thank you, GG and GB for the supportive words. I'm not ready to give up yet. I think I'm beginning to detach, so I've got a second wind.

[Jefe]

Good! I'm glad to hear that.

[wmwb123]

My wife came to get her things this past weekend. She has now officially moved out.

Yet there was a development. Before she left she apologized to me. She said when I told her co-workers about her affair, they told her I was crazy, unstable and possibly dangerous. She said she believed them and so she has been treating me poorly ever since. She said now she realizes I've "always been a nice person." She even said she understood why I did it. She even cried a little.

Right after she left I found a postcard for her in the mailbox. I took a picture and sent it to her via text. She replied almost immediately, the first time she's responded to a text in five months. There have been several friendly texts since then.

I'm encouraged that she is showing signs of rational thought. Thinking I was crazy is irrational. Realizing that I am and always have been a nice person is rational. I had hoped, however, that the rational thought would return all at once and she would realize how irrational her affair is.

What do I do now? Do I attempt to reestablish communication? My DB coach had been working with me on that until she cut off contact. With divorce looming, though, should I really let her think we'll just be friends after the divorce?

It feels so good to have friendly contact with her, but I do not want my wife as a friend. I want her to be my wife.