Congratulations Steve on what appears to be a success. As one reads through all these threads it is easy to get discouraged and encouraging to read of your progress. It gives us all hope.
M 53 W 54, M since 98 D15, D19 8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM until 10/14 7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR 12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.
Well we moved on Saturday. However, I have been moving since a week ago Sunday! LOL
I started out by taking all the garage and polebarn stuff to the new place. Then as the week went on, I started moving the stuff we had packed, and as my W packed stuff I'd move it too. Had a good start with some help of a friend and my dad.
Then Saturday we did the big move. It went well. Friends and family all worked hard and all the big stuff got moved. Still had some residual small stuff, so yesterday we went back and took a couple of more loads.
We are ALMOST done. LOL I will meet her at the old house tonight to get hopefully the last load. Though I still have the zero-turn at the old house to cut the grass. And there are a few more things we need to do before we put it on the market. But it is close.
But now for the update:
Last night taking the second load to the new house, we had to stop for gas. She was in one of our cars and I was in my truck. We pulled into pumps next to each other, and I went over to pay and pump her gas. She rolled her window down and said "Fill 'er up please!" I laughed and got both our gas pumps going. She then called me over to her window again.
She had tears in her eyes and she said she was having a rough time. That she felt like she keeps "leaving her home". (She gets sentimental every time she moves. I moved her twice before we got married and she got emotional both times.) I rubbed her back and asked her if she wanted me to move us back, (half joking), and she said no. But that she was just feeling homesick. We talked a little about it last night, and how with 19 years in our first MH, we had a lot of good memories.
This morning I noticed that when we went to the new house on Saturday to unload the trailer, she stayed behind to keep packing. She did several private videos on the singing app with her singing to sentimental songs (like Remember When by Alan Jackson), while filming the house and the property. She woke up as I was leaving for work and I hugged and kissed her and told her I loved the videos. I then offered to move us back if that's what she really wanted, but she said no.
Anyway, this is so much the woman I married! To see her transformation from where she was in December, to where she is now is incredible. Guys and gals, NEVER, as sandi says, NEVER give up. There is always hope. If you had asked me for the odds of us being where we are today, in July, in January, I would have told you there was less than a 10% chance of this happening.
NEVER give up. There is always hope.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
This is so inspiring. Steve, I am very happy for you.
M 53 W 54, M since 98 D15, D19 8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM until 10/14 7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR 12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.
Steve - This is FANTASTIC news! Amazing transformation thanks for giving us all HOPE! BTW did you see the movie- I can only imagine? What did you think ? Great job- keep it up!!!
M51 w50 T-20Yrs M-16Yrs S15- mad at W for not trying and giving up 1 Awesum dog BD 10/31/17 separate rooms 02/08/18 wife moved out 05/17/18
Steve, I'm happy to hear that!!! Your wife wasn't quite as far gone as some of the really extreme cases here but it sounds like she could have headed in that direction if you hadn't handled the situation as you did. Great job to you for saving your family! I hope your new home will be the start of many wonderful new beginnings.
Anyway, this is so much the woman I married! To see her transformation from where she was in December, to where she is now is incredible. Guys and gals, NEVER, as sandi says, NEVER give up. There is always hope. If you had asked me for the odds of us being where we are today, in July, in January, I would have told you there was less than a 10% chance of this happening.
NEVER give up. There is always hope.
Wow! This really sounds like things are going great, Steve! I am so, so happy for you!
To see the woman you love "come back to her senses" and start to move away from the wayward mindset is just... it really does fill your heart.
I think, as someone else posted above, that your wife was not as "far gone" as some and, like my own W, she had a more stable grounding in her pre-wayward life. Pretty sure i have seen Sandi2 post here and there about how it can be much harder for a WW to turn away from that lifestyle if they are colder-hearted (or something like that) to begin with. I have heard my own W say numerous times now how she now "hates the person she was becoming." Sounds like you were the lighthouse in your case and your W "saw the light". Hope your successes continue and that you find much happiness!
H53/W51, R-ing 4/'18
"Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires"-Sg.of Sg 2:7
"So oftentimes it happens,that we live our lives in chains, & we never even know we have the key"-Eagles III 1:3
I dont know what we are allowed to post, but one parenting book that I have found to be EXCELLENT is "How to Talk so Kids Will Listen. And Listen So Kids Will Talk" I highly recommend you reqad through some of it to help with your daughter.
