I think to myself, W could get EVERYTHING she wanted: the D and a golden parachute pile of cash with which she could buy the house outright and still be able to pay for the rest of her education. We live in an area with a very low cost of living, and even then we have been living WAY below our means. So what fallout can there be? I've basically handed her the keys to a new, better life. And it's just about too late to turn it around.
My ex got the same. Enough money to be able to live on her own. Whatever stuff she wanted out the house. The childcare arrangement she proposed etc.
But she missed out on AMOAFWL2.0. And that guy is pretty awesome. So she can enjoy her house on the foundation of sand. Maybe it's great....maybe it isnt....doesnt really matter any more.
YOU are the catch. YOU are the prize.
Shes losing out on that. No matter how much money she gets or whatever, she is missing out on a great guy and trading him in for someone that is willing to cheat on his wife with someone else's wife.
THIS. BE. A. HEAD SHOT.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Shes losing out on that. No matter how much money she gets or whatever, she is missing out on a great guy and trading him in for someone that is willing to cheat on his wife with someone else's wife.
I always forget to look at it that way. Still exorcising the NG in me.
(Unless she was telling the truth when she said "that's over" (the A). I would hope her IC would be helping her understand that that's not a healthy trade. In that case she would just be WAW, now WW. But if she is, in fact, dating the new guy that I sometimes think she might be dating, it's still a definite downgrade, and far too soon. So I guess she would still fit into Sandi's description of WW. Making poor impulsive decisions based on feelings.)
But enough about her. Burned 2.0 will be pretty neat.
H: 35 W: 33 M: 11 T: 13
4/10/18: I discovered A and confronted ("BD1") 6/23/18: I moved out 8/31/18: MC ends ("BD2")
