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#2813558 09/20/18 07:03 PM
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Today, W has been in the office I work in. She brought breakfast for everyone. She asked if I wanted some, I said no thank you because I had just had breakfast.

She gave me a breakfast sandwich anyway and said "I hate you."

I said "I know."

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How did she say it? Serious? Joking?


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Serious. But calmly.

She is leaving the office now. She just walked past, didn't even look at me.

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Sounds like thats going to be a tough situation at work. I hope its not going to affect your job there?


Together:20 years
M:3 years
Me:40
WW:40
S15
A suspected:5/17
AC:5/18
BD:8/18
WW in full blown R w/ OM
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I'm not going to let it affect anything if I can. I kept working, she ignored me...it's all good. smile

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Blak,

Great job!!!!!! You step and now your son has been put in the best situation.

Keep upnthe hard work.


M:37 W:37
T:11 M:10
S17, S13, S10, S4
BD:06/28/17
OM confirmed 07/20/17
Recon the M 10/29/17
Working hard:2gether

Onward and forward

This process is not a sprint it's a marathon! Patience, Patience, Patience.
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W unblocked me on social media and sent a friend request at the insistence of the mediator saying "grow up". lol I haven't accepted it yet.

Her fam is seriously blaming each other for influencing me to go for custody.

That's a mess.

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Keep detaching. I would seriously consider a) getting rid of FB or b) in lieu of that not accepting her FB request

Social media is never good in these instances. It is best to stay off all SM in relation to your sitch.


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Just got a text message from W.

W - You ripped apart my family and took my baby. I hate you beyond words.

Okay, I know I shouldn't have responded...but I did anyway.

M - You ripped apart my family, took my baby, and acted like it was okay. I did none of those things to you. Nor would I ever.

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Last night W called me and spent three and a half hours (while she was at work) alternating between begging me not to take her baby away, saying that I'm trying to take her family, and blaming me for this.

She wants to revisit mediation and agree to 50/50 and 3 months of couples counseling to try to make this go her way, but she's not willing to do counseling before changing the agreement, and she doesn't want to have anything to do with me at all.

She picked S up this morning, then started texting me "give me back my baby". She's not listening to anything I say. She's refusing to accept any responsibility for this.

I've told her I'm not trying to take him away from her, just ensuring that he's got a solid parent who isn't going to put their feelings before his safety.

This is hard.

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