Blog | Michele Weiner-Davis

Where Were You When I Needed You?

Although I usually write about things you can do to keep a marriage on track, this article contains a tip of what to avoid doing. I have seen this pattern so often in couples attending a two-day intensive with me that I want to get the word out- “Don’t do this!” What...

What to Ask Before Tying the Knot

Rumor has it that "Questions Couples Should Ask (Or Wish They Had) Before Marrying," a Dec. 17, 2006, New York Times list of 15 key questions, was the second most e-mailed story at NYTimes.com last year and the third most read article on its Web site for 2006. I've...

Take Care of Yourself

Today I want to write about topic that I think is so important as you are working on improving your marriage. Too many people work so hard at getting things right with their spouses, that that's their only focus. They lose concentration at work. They lose interest in...

Hopefully Ever After

This article, first published in the Sept/Oct, 2001 issue of Psychotherapy Networker, is about my personal and professional "Divorce Busting" journey. Recently, while giving a "Divorce Busting" workshop for therapists in California, I asked the group of experienced...

He Must Be Teething

Anyone who has had small children knows that when they are incredibly cranky or crabby, they make us miserable too. But as parents, we try hard to be understanding. We explain away their testiness by telling ourselves, "He must be sleepy. He probably needs a nap," or...

Forgiveness is a Gift You Give Yourself

Are you someone who walks around feeling angry with your spouse or loved one much of the time? Do you have a little inner voice that constantly reminds you of all of his or her wrongdoings? Have you become expert at remembering all the minute details of past...

Time Together

Since the publication of my book, Divorce Busting, I have been regularly interviewed by reporters about what makes marriages work. They ask, "Michele, why do you think so many marriages are ending in divorce? What is at the root of all of this?" Although the writers...

While Your Spouse Decides

Perhaps you are someone whose spouse is in the midst of an affair and it is making you crazy. You feel like giving up on your marriage. Worse yet, you feel like being hurtful. Don't do anything you will regret in the long run. You came to this website because you want...

Husband Not Interested in Sex

Below is the story of Paula. Paula has been married for 19 years and her married sex life has hit the rocks. Her husband is not interested in sex, and the sexual resentment has seriously threatened their marriage. Intimacy and affection are key components to a happy...

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