Well, the photos were in his recycle bin...and for some odd reason that's what I opened. I don't know his password to check email (we have separate computers) or I might have found out LONG before I did. See, he was trying to make a cd of the photos for her, and was having problems, and then tried to delete the photos but didn't empty the bin.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
I see...its weird how these things happen, isn't it? I guess i don't understand why my H hasn't admitted it to me, after all of the evidence that i have found and confronted him with. I wonder if he and ow laugh at how gullible i am? Pig!
I know exactly how you feel. I, too, have wondered if H. and o.w. made fun of me while they were together. I can tell you that he called me several times from his car while driving to and from that said city and she was RIGHT THERE in the car with him (obviously keeping very quiet so I would think he was alone). I can't imagine what they must have said when he would hang up. It's things like this that just have me dumbfounded about H. because I can't believe he treated me that way. I never would have thought he could be so heartless.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
Hope- I knew you would understand. Sometimes I wonder why I even want my H back, after all of this s@!&. Guess i am just a sucker for love. I never thought that maybe my H called me while his beast was in the car with him. I always thought no, b/c he would always use some term of endearment while on the phone...but, who knows. Really, now, what is wrong with them?
I don't know; I wish I knew. I remember H. calling me during that weekend last summer and I know he said ILY before we hung up at least on a couple of calls. Either she heard it and realized he was just trying to keep the lie going, or she had fallen asleep on the drive and didn't hear him. What gets me is thinking about H. doing that...what kind of a person goes away on a weekend w/o.w. and is lying the entire time to his wife? This is not the man I married, Imdi.
Anyway, go buy the book today; it's great. I will probably finish it in the next day or two.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
Just butting in here... my H came back home several times in the last months saying he loved me. When I found out about OW (other women) I contacted one of them and when he was going out w/ her coincided w/ one of the times he came home... No, I don't understand that either. Just last week, H said he loved me. I said, "that's some strange love," to which he said, "I am a strange person." UGH!
Imdi, Bad weekend here too. If you're ever up for a road trip, DC isn't too far away from NJ. Anyway, ditto on the problems with married friends. For so long I didn't want to tell any of my friends my H and I were having problems as they were all just getting married, about to have a baby. I felt like I shouldn't ruin their happiness.
what kind of a person goes away on a weekend w/o.w. and is lying the entire time to his wife? This is not the man I married,
Ugh...I try to figure this out all the time. Thats why i often have thoughts that my H couldn't possibly love or care about me if he does such despicable things. But, then i realize that i have to separate the two...i believe that when people have A, they compartmentalize things, so that the 2 worlds never really "interact." Does that make sense? Nevertheless, i still want to puke any time i think about the things he has said and done. SOB!
Me, too, Imdi. There are a lot of painful thoughts that I have to work through. I still can't believe that my H. and I are at this point in our marriage...what's left of it. I am sure you can empathize.
I guess you and I both have to at least allow the idea that there might be better out there for us, no matter if that's a scary thought or not. For me, it certainly is. I know you and I are great people, Imdi, and our H's know it, too. After all, they did walk down the aisle with us at one time.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
Quote: ...i believe that when people have A, they compartmentalize things, so that the 2 worlds never really "interact." Does that make sense?
lmdi, that totally makes sense. It's the only way they can deal with what they've done. There's no other way for them to cope with the damage that they're causing and also the "joy" that they're experiencing.
And one day, in one way or another, they'll have to come back to the real world.
