Okay, we don't issue wine in this necka the woods. But I got plenty of OJ and prenatal vitamins to go around! Watch: Now nobody will respond to my post. Who wants OJ? Sheesh. See how boring a preggo life is??
Nothing going on here. Just wanted to post since my last thread locked up. Interesting evening at Barnes&Noble yesterday. Didn't get the Laci book -- darnit. But I was in the "relationships" section and a dude comes over and starts kinda embarrassingly laughing about all the R-help books. He starts a little small talk about the wide selection, then picks up a book called, "1001 Ways to be Romantic," or something like that, and says, "Maybe this is what I need." He's snickering while he's reading through it, and I'm trying not to pay too much attention, except when he says things like, "Hey, get this: Here's something you can try." And he reads something about Turkish tradition and taking off your man's shoes and washing his feet. I responded with something like, "And I guess the next thing you'll tell me is to dry them off with my hair?"
Then he gets into a conversation about a Turkish friend of his, and about a new book that he'd heard a lot of media frenzy about. He said it talks about hitting on women using negative tactics; I forget the name of the book. Anyway, he's like, "Yeah, it would be like walking over to a girl and saying, 'That shirt you're wearing is ugly.'" I smiled and said, "I'm not sure that would work with me ... I'd prolly pop you in the nose and tell you your nose is kinda ugly.'"
I realized really quickly that I'll have to work on my attitude over the next 4 months -- won't get too far with that kind of exchange, now will I? Not that I'm thinking of dating, obviously. I kept looking at him a little puzzled, poking my stomach out a little further to see if he noticed the obvious. LMAO. I swear, at least life is still humorous at times. Anyway, he was a really nice fella. Made me think of the good times to come...those that I hopefully won't remember because I *will* be able to drink wine then...
I'm reading a little about infidelity now, and I still think it's hard to apply the info. to my sitch simply because my H left me to start his A. In almost every case, the man has a moral dilemma: Should I stay, or should I go? And most books are targeted to the man who is in that dilemma -- and not the one who's already gone. Oh well. Can't win 'em all.
caverna, I did get the Surviving Infidelity book, and that's the one I'm reading now. Some good information, some of which applies.
But have you guys ever tried reading one of these books? Ouch! It hurts to read! Not sure the ol' heart's quite ready for the truth yet. I'm still trying to argue with the text: Yeah, but I was ML to him *all* the time! He never worked late or on weekends! No, *I* handled the bills, so there were no additional charges to flower shops, jewelry stores, restaurants, etc.!
Then I lay the book down and concede: "Ah, it must just be the pregnancy." That's the easiest explanation for a number of reasons -- mainly because it's the easiest to believe.
Hey I like OJ! Got any vodka? No, never mind, OM drinks vodka.
BTW, 4 months gone and guys still trying to pick you up, not too shabby
Yeah, the infidelity books are less than uplifting at times, but I NEVER would have guessed you would argue with somone's interpretation of relationships
Ok - Preggo, I'll take the OJ. Don't know if it will go with the Tabasco Bloody Mary TJ I just poured. Wow....I love this stuff, but it really burns my upper lip. I don't want to know what it is doing to my stomach.
I think I already posted to you that we are in the same predicament for books to read. My H moved out in May....got a girlfriend in Aug. But he must feel very confident with her because he waited 8 months to file....and he just did Wednesday. I haven't even gotten the paperwork yet... so not much I can do yet.
I haven't read your whole sitch, but am I to assume you are a reporter or some such occupation.....since you are so good at detective work? If so, me too! Reporter for 15 years on a big Chicago daily. We should exchange investigative methods.
Dust: Shaddup!!! You gotta be kiddin' me! Yeah, reporter it is. Investigations is what I like to do. But I've been at a small twice-a-week for what seems like forever -- mainly because it gives me the fleixibility and freedom I need to be as hard-nosed as I want. Got a job offer from a big N.C. daily last summer, but I was too afraid they'd put a lid on me, so I turned it down...
Anyway, a daily in Chicago, eh? Wow. I bet you got some stories. And *you're* asking *me* for investigative methods?? Puhlease! (You need to put that drink down, dear! )
Watch: Now nobody will respond to my post. Who wants OJ? Sheesh. See how boring a preggo life is?? 