So, my H has been gone for almost three months. The first two months, I would take pictures off the shelf and cry like a baby for a minute or two.
Now that I'm beautifully detached , other pictures are starting to bother me. I've turned over frames, moved them to the backs of others. I've put away (angerly) the pictures that I would cling to in the first two months.
So, tell me what you are all doing because I'm seriously contemplating taking down the huge 16 x 20 wedding picture in my living room. Maybe I should wait till after he moves the rest of his stuff out? Maybe I want him to see that I've taken it down.
I fear that if I take it down, it means I'm not standing for our marriage. But, at times, it just hurts to look at it or as I'm walking through the room, I have to purposely NOT look at it as my eyes are always drawn to it.
What do you all think? What are you all doing?
Me 31 WAH 30 M 5 Together 14 years S 4 divorced 7/11/07
The only picture I took down as a piece of framed art of U2's Bono that she received for Xmas from her "friends". She only just noticed it about a week back and asked me if I threw it out (looking for a fight...). I told her I didn't, I just put it away with some of her other stuff for when she moves out.
She also asked why I took it down and I told her I didn't like to be reminded that other people are in her life right now that I don't agree with.
"I made the wall of shadow draw back, beyond desire and act, I walked on.
Oh flesh, my own flesh, woman whom I loved and lost, I summon you in the moist hour, I raise my song to you."
, other pictures are starting to bother me. I've turned over frames, moved them to the backs of others. I've put away (angerly) the pictures that I would cling to in the first two months.