that wretched thread of mine that was never ending as finally locked, just wanted to say that everything is still the same, not heard or seen xh and we are still due to move out of his house by friday although we don't have anywhere to go yet, I can see it is all going to get rather nasty when he finds out we haven't gone, but I ain't putting my kid on the streets or in an unsavourable neighborhood for no-one. If I can I will try and link to my old thread but don't have much time right now.
well the day I am supposed to be out of xh's house as arrived, not heard anything at all from him, nowhere to go and no intentions of going until I have a place locally, wonder what his next step will be, to get us out he will have to go to court to get an eviction order, keep plodding and living a life that is all we can do, until we get a house of our own and draw the line from xh. Went to son's school yesterday as it was the annual review day, on coming home we were waiting for the bus and who should go past but xh's new wife, she had a good look at me and then turned and waved to my son, son went absolutely ballistic and couldn't believe that she had the bare faced nerve to smile and wave, this is the woman that stole his dad, everything that was rightfully son's, his grandad's money that he worked so hard for and she isn't happy with that she now wants the home that he lives in and she waves and smiles at him, son was very annoyed and did a very rude finger jesture to her, what a common hard faced cow she must be.
change of mind, I have just got back from the local post office and xh must have followed me down the road as before I had time to make myself a coffee, he put a letter from his solicitor through the door, the letter is a notice to let me know that he now intends to seek an order from the court to get us out of the house, the proceedings will start at the end of june, he as stated to his solicitor that I signed a tenants agreement at the beginning of last year and now I owe him 18 months rent for the property, I never signed the agreement and it is still here unsigned, I am sick of all this mess, it is exactly 2 years to the day that he dropped the bomb today, that is bad enough but to believe the man I loved all those years and the father of my child can do this is just unbelievable.
Mandy, as I have said before, of all the stories that we read about here, I do believe that this man is the meanest I have read about. I think if I were you, I would get the biggest Iron skillet I could get my hands on and bust him square in the head with it before I moved out. I think its absolutely dispicable that he is putting you and his son out and your boy still in school.
Braveheart I agree, I dont think I have read anyone else's thread and thought that their mlc'er is worse than mine, I can honestly say hand on heart that this man is completely the opposite to the one I knew, the one I knew wouldn't have even dreamt about doing the things that he is doing. also I cannot believe that the solicitor that is sending all this paperwork as actually said that I owe him rent money and that I signed the tenancy agreement, I have never signed it and this is the sole reason I wouldn't sign it, but surely they must know I haven't signed it unless someone is forging my signature, I still have it here unsigned. I don't think this man is ever going to come out of this, it is two years and he is still dishing the dirty work out, why won't he crack and hit bottom, doesn't he see or doesn't he care that by doing this he is only pushing his son further away, the son that he told on his break away that he didn't know how much he loved him, he used to adore this kid, why oh why can't he bloody wake up and realise he is making it all much worse for himself. He is in love, he as got married, he is in a new life, why can't he leave us alone. that is the main reason I want out of here as when we are gone he will have to leave us alone, he chose his new life why doesn't he get on with it.
I confess that I do not know your whole story. But this is what happens in divorce. You have a choice to make. You can do what you have to do and get on with it. Or you can stay angry and bitter and allow it to hurt you and your children.
My ex eventually bought a house with OM. Yep, he came between us, but she let it happen. As one of my Cs said, he didn't make any vows to me. I certainly went through a bitter period. It is natural. But the first time I saw him after all of this, he put out his hand to shake and I shook. My children were there and I was not about to do anything to harm them or cause trouble as they would be living in the house with their mother. Your H has children. You are forever linked. He is on with his new life. Does that mean he forgets his children? I think not.
mandy, I do know it is tough. I have been there. But I also know that my ability to put it behind me benefits my children and their parents. And tha gives my children a better chance to be successful in their lives.
Sign the agreement or move. Get on with your life. You hurt yourself.
IMP, They were never married. They lived together for many years and had a child together. He left for OW and now wants her and the son out of the house that she has no entitlement to. This is also one of those situations where he married OW.
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
imp, I thank you for your reply, yes it would have been easy to sign the agreement and pay my xh rent, but unfortunately for me my xh decided he didn't have to pay us any money, not for me but for the upbringing of his son ie clothes, food etc, I said via his solicitor that I would exchange him not paying us any money in place of not paying him rent, then he sent us a letter stating that we could live here whilst ever son was in education, he now revokes that decision, he wants us out and we are trying to get out, we have no money and have struggled on with no finances from xh, so we are not in a position to purchase a place and the only other option would be to go into a hostel, no way would I do that to myself and most of all not to my son, we are getting on with life and don't want xh back in our lives, but my main point is how as you say all this mess doesn't stop xh thinking about his son, then how can he put his son out of his home and onto the streets, and if he was happy to not pay us any money in exchange for rent does he now say I owe him 18 months rent and that is his excuse for kicking us out, shouldn't he then be sending us the 18 months child support he as never paid. I just don't see how him doing all this is going to have the wanted effect that he would like and that is for son to play happy families with him and his new wife, by hurting son in the ways and forms that he as hurt son surely anyone can see that is not coming from a man that adores his son and only wants the best in life for him, to put him on the streets, do me a favour.
