Is humour the first casuality of MLC?

[angelica]

Do all MLCers have a sense of humour by-pass? Mine certainly has. I was also wondering if anyone had tried sending their WAS funny emails, in response to spew.

I had the idea of trying humour - well nothing else has worked, and I have been dark for quite a while after h's latest effusion.

He takes himself so darned seriously it makes my teeth ache, and I realise that this is one bit of the drama that we all seem to get sucked into . . . .their sheer unfunniness. And yet, we all laugh at teh ridiculous things they say and do.

If anyone has examples of where humour has worked, or feels inspired to try it, it would be interesting to know. I feel quite inspired to try this one at home, as they say!!

[Jeanette1120]

Goodmorning Ang!!

Hmmm....humor eh? Well that would depend on if your H was humorous to beging with. Mine was kinda serious all the time. He had a sense of humor, don't get me wrong here, but it was a different kind.

Based upon my experience, he didnt think things were all that funny.......even tho the entire world was laughing!!! OR he wouldn't let the "humor" show.

Until the other day when I made a joke about "us" being old now I have not heard the man laugh in 2 years!!!

Now me? I laugh and smile all the time Life is getting short so while I stand around here I might as well have some damn fun!!!

HUGS!!! my sweet Angelica

Jeanette

[angelica]

Hi Jeanette

I wouldn't say my h was ever Mr laugh a minute, but he did have a good sense of humour. But now??? Or perhaps it is just around his family.

Anyway, as I said, I realised that this is one area we we seem to get sucked in - to their goom and misery!!

A

[Jeanette1120]

So why do we allow them to suck us in? Because we care? Because we are still attached? Because we are witnessing such a huge course of destruction? You could not have made me believe that Rich would have self destructed like this 3 years ago....it's hard to watch.

They may have a wonderful sense of humor right now. But we can't see it or we are not allowed to see it. Who knows what they are now.....they have many different personalities. LOL I don't know bout you but it's like dealing with Cybil

[Sunflower23]

A,

You know, now that you mention it, my H's loss of humor was one of the first signs. It started way before anything else. I was baffled because he was so funny and had such great jokes and stories when we were first married.

Interesting.

Now though, no humor, and if I tried he would look at me like I'm crazy. As a matter of fact, he would no laugh, just to spite me.

Hugs,
Sun

[brandnewday]

That is an interesting observation.
My Husband's sense of humor also vanished with MLC.

One day out of the blue, he wanted me to see a funny video on youtube.

Then we began watching Venture Brothers together, over the phone.

It was nice to hear him laugh again, it had been so long.

[Grace_O]

My H (to some extent) still has a sense of humor and laughs, but is not as likely to as he used to. He'll laugh at funny movies and joke with our D's. It seems like it would fall under depression, but what do I know. I have to admit though as I've been writing this and thinking, when I use humor, it does seem to help, at least sometimes. Heck, if nothing else has worked....why not?

[ShadesofGrey]

My H's sense of humore vanished too. That was one of the first things I noticed.

[palgal]

My H had/has a sense of humor. He never lost it except when it comes to me. People laugh at his humor all the time and ask me how I live with it...if they only knew! We did go thru a period where it felt like he was always angry and trying to pick fights with me about anything. I was silly enough to respond and try to rationalize in the early stages of this. I know better now.

Then we went thru a stage where he was jokey even with me and we laughed a lot. That was nice but that stage ended too.

Just yesterday it was late morning and H asked if I had ate breakfast yet. I said no, I was waiting for him to make his famous hotcakes. He stared at me. I shook my head up and down, cracked a big smile, he stayed staring but I could see his lips starting to turn up. I said do I have to wiggle my tail and piddle on the floor next? He laughed and I got hotcakes!

[angelica]

Soooo, some of them clearly lose their sense of humour - my h did. But, has anyone tried being light hearted back when they spew, and just laughing at them.

I did it once, this last summer, and it stopped him dead in his tracks. I had fogotten until I started posting this . . . He was telling the most preposterous story about something he claims I did, and I just roared with laughter, and he actually said, 'I suppose it does sound a bit unilikely' . .