How do we repair with so little dialogue?

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My husband says he's unsure if he wants to start the road to repair - but thinks he can be much more involved with the family. He can see himself spending all his time back home except for sleeping in his other place. This is great but I also see it as very dangerous. Whether he thinks it or not - this is a road towards repair. My fear is that I can already see us falling into old patterns and the road we begin now may be built on faulty ground if we don't begin some real dialogue. I have changed significantly. And, while I know he's going through major upheaval and crisis, he is only beginning his journey (says he's on the cusp, etc, may be finished with OW - so his friend says - but he is not ready to discuss with me) How do we begin to spend much more time together without failing when I am so different now and he seems to be very much the same?? How can I allow him to re-enter this family and risk so much more pain without at least discussing today, this moment, where things are now - not tomorrow or next week - but right now?? I feel so confused and uncertain. Anyone have similar experiences?