I have been divorced over 3 years. My xw is remarried (to OM) and I just remarried a few months ago.
"Surviving the big D" as this groups title implies, is ongoing. For me anyway. I am glad to have developed some life management skills over the course of my crash and burn during divorce. Because the BS continues from XW.
I am coping much better. More than coping in fact. I am living in spite of the painful things that continue to happen. I guess I am just wanting to state that some things still can hurt. Quite a bit. And today I hurt. Yet I know now that I can survive. This too shall pass. There was a time when I did not know that I could or would.
A friend once told me that in life, pain is inevitable but suffering was optional. I finally know what he means. We will all suffer pain at some point. Whether we turn it into ongoing suffering is determined by choices we make when pain comes our way. I am glad to say that I have found ways to make choices to aleviate suffering. Posting is one of those choices.
