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I head this new song by Madonna and I decided to make I my mantra. Thanks to God, I've come a looooooooong way, my wounds are healing and I can see my old hurts through a glass door. I'm not saying by all means I won't hurt nor that I'm 100% over all the stuff that has happened, but I think I'm ready to move on with a new attitude

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There's only so much you can learn in one place
The more that I wait, the more time that I waste

I haven't got much time to waste, it's time to make my way
I'm not afraid of what I'll face, but I'm afraid to stay
I'm going down my own road and I can make it alone
I'll work and I'll fight till I find a place of my own

Are you ready to jump?
Get ready to jump
Don't ever look back, oh baby
Yes, I'm ready to jump
Just take my hands
Get ready to jump

We learned our lesson from the start, my sisters and me
The only thing you can depend on is your family
And life's gonna drop you down like the limbs of a tree
It sways and it swings and it bends until it makes you see

Are you ready to jump?
Get ready to jump
Don't ever look back, oh baby
Yes, I'm ready to jump
Just take my hands
Get ready to, are you ready?

There's only so much you can learn in one place
The more that you wait, the more time that you waste
I'll work and I'll fight till I find a place of my own
It sways and it swings and it bends until you make it your own

I can make it alone
I can make it alone
I can make it alone (My sister and me)
I can make it alone (My sister and me)


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arrrgh! no edit button, lol I meant to say:

I heard this new song by Madonna and I decided to make it my mantra


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Oh cat.......

I don't know that we're ever completely over it, especially when we have children with someone. The pain does seem to dull with time but the hurt? Nope I just think it's something we learn to live with almost like the death of someone we loved. Afterall that really is what it's like.

Moving on is a big step. We all want to do it so badly and we all know that it's no easy road. You do sound so good and I'm really happy for you!

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hey girlies)))))))))) doing ok, uneventful days here, keeping busy, I'm barely at home anymore \:\)
Little d5 still drawing picts of mom and dad and her, s10 still praying "thanks for mom, dad, d5 and me". They seemed to be doing ok, I know things will change once he gets his place and they'll have to spend the night away from me, I pray I'm able to see when something bothers them.


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I'm able to see when something bothers them.


Oh you will cat, your a mom, a wonderful mom, we know. We know ALL lol

Your sweet babies, it hurts at times, but seriously you loving them and them knowing and feeling you love them ( and knowing thier dad does too) will help many a bump in the road.


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cat it is a process. They will always love you as they will him. Forgiving is not only a gift you give yourself but one you also give your kids. Like Bethie said, you're never really over it because the kids will always be affected by this but the closer we stay to that forgiveness mode, the better it is for you as well as the kids.

Living life well then becomes easier and more enjoyable! You are doing well, keep it up and continue to stay in prayer. (btw, I too wondered what happened to the edit button? hmmmm??)


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thanks everyone, now that I'm doing better I'm really starting to wonder how hard it will be for the kids once the overnight visits start, for now d5 is looking forward to them, to her it is yet another "sleep over", plus stbx has a bunny, so she's eager to play with it.
Something is fishy, perhaps he is getting second thoughts about buying a place after all, first he tells me it looks like the deal might go through (he put an offer for a place), then he says he hasnt' heard from them. Whatever, he knows he has up to Nov. to get his stuff out.


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Sweet Cat.

I know you are of strong Faith. I have the book the power of the praying parent. No I do not read it everyday, but I do try to really focus my prayers in the area of my children.

Things will fall into place, it is frusterating at times for sure.

When my kids spend the night with the X. They Cling to me when they come home. They need to spend the night in my bed usually when they come home.

It takes them a while to wind down.

They do not keep a schedule when they are with him.

Showers? Um not usuall when they are with him

Eating right? Um not usually when they are with him.

Having fun? well um ofcourse. Doing things they don't want to do? well um ofcourse.

I am not trying to be negative with you at all, lovey.

I just want you to maybe be prepard for some stuff.

Other things that have helped me, is I don't ask what did you do with papi this weekend.

They usually come to me with it, and it is usually followed with tears, if they have to go to OW's house.

So just be ready with the kisses and the hugs, and the ears to listen. I know you will

Be ready to bite the tongue too. ACK that is the hardest.

I usually try to have a home cooked meal ready for when the come home, and they can get back to some normalcy.

To think that our babies have to do this, still makes me want to set the X's on fire.

God is soo good to me, and has kept me away from matches.

(((((((((((((cat)))))))))))

It will be something else that you will , get thru.

YOu will be amazed and your continued strentgh lovey


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Speak Kindly
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I head this new song by Madonna and I decided to make I my mantra. Thanks to God, I've come a looooooooong way, my wounds are healing and I can see my old hurts through a glass door. I'm not saying by all means I won't hurt nor that I'm 100% over all the stuff that has happened, but I think I'm ready to move on with a new attitude


Loved it, looked it up.

Madonna, i love her.

Her song Sorry, is the one that I love, and has been mantraish to me.



Je suis désolé = i am sorry (french)
Lo siento = i am sorry (spanish)
Ik ben droevig = i am sad (Dutch)
Sono spiacente = i am sorry (italian)
Perdóname = forgive me (spanish)


I've heard it all before
I've heard it all before
I've heard it all before
I've heard it all before
[repeat]

I don't wanna hear, I don't wanna know
Please don't say you're sorry
I've heard it all before
And I can take care of myself
I don't wanna hear, I don't wanna know
Please don't say 'forgive me'
I've seen it all before
And I can't take it anymore

You're not half the man you think you are
Save your words because you've gone too far
I've listened to your lies and all your stories (Listen to your stories)
You're not half the man you'd like to be

I don't wanna hear, I don't wanna know
Please don't say you're sorry
I've heard it all before
And I can take care of myself
I don't wanna hear, I don't wanna know
Please don't say 'forgive me'
I've seen it all before
And I can't take it anymore

Don't explain yourself 'cause talk is cheap
There's more important things than hearing you speak
You stayed because I made it so convenient(so convenient)
Don't explain yourself, you'll never see

Gomenasai = "Forgive me"/"sorry" in japanese
Mujhe maaf kardo = "Please forgive me" in Hindi
Ishak prashau = "go back, please" in lithuanian
Sleechah = "I am sorry"in Hebrew
Forgive me...

(Sorry, sorry, sorry)
I've heard it all before
I've heard it all before
I've heard it all before
[repeat]

I don't wanna hear, I don't wanna know
Please don't say you're sorry
I've heard it all before
And I can take care of myself
I don't wanna hear, I don't wanna know
Please don't say 'forgive me'
I've seen it all before
And I can't take it anymore

I don't wanna hear, I don't wanna know
Please don't say you're sorry
(Don't explain yourself cause talk is cheap)
I've heard it all before, And I can take care of myself
(There's more important things than hearing you speak)
I don't wanna hear, I don't wanna know
Please don't say 'forgive me'

I've heard it all before
I've heard it all before
I've heard it all before
I've heard it all before


Live Simply
Love Generously
Care Deeply
Speak Kindly
Leave the rest to God
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