From what I know about the other HPV, it usually goes away itself in about 2 years or so, many people have it and never know (I think like 50%)just need to watch it by getting frequent pap smears if you have the high risk HPV (cancer causing). Also, it is treated easily. My friend has it.
Gabbysmom: thank you for telling your story. It does make me feel better to know that even if the worst is true, it isn't as awful as it sounds. I have no plans on ever having children anymore so all of that doesn't concern me. But I just don't want to have cancer and go through chemo and all of that.
I had my GYN appointment today. They said that it is for sure warts, but isn't a big deal (yeah...that is THEM talking!). That I do not have any other STD's (although I didn't want the HIV test). She said that it was pointless right now to give the pap test to me because I have an appointment for one on Dec 8 already and my insurance won't pay for one right now. She also said that it could take up to 5 years before the pap came back not normal because of HPV so testing me today won't really do me much good.
She gave me some cream to put on the warts that is supposed to dry them up. Since I do not have many of them, she thinks this will work the best. But if they are not gone by Dec 8 then she will have to BURN them off! Ouch!
I checked my answering machine this afternoon and my XH had a message on there from his doctor to call them back. (Why he hasn't bothered to change the information with his doctor's is beyond me) I am hoping that he had to call his doctor because HE has warts as well. Only I hope that he has lots of them. My 3 warts will be gone and he has to deal with 100's of them for months.
Sara
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
My H and I are living in the same house still, sleeping in the same bed, but neither of us has expressed any interest in sex with the other since the bomb, a year ago (when H met OW in person, after months of internet/phone sex). I am terrified of what he might pass on to me if we do reconcile (even if his OW really was a virgin when they met, as claimed, which seems a bit unlikely). He has never admitted to a PA, but I have seen proof, although I haven't confronted him. I got tested a few months ago for everything STD-wise because I realized he could have been lying about his first A (in 2001) being an EA only. Fortunately I tested negative for everything.
Anyway, didn't mean to hijack, just wanted to say I'm sorry you are going through this, and hope everything clears up quickly and successfully, and that your X suffers a lot! I know, that's really mean, but I'm still having a hard time with the whole forgiveness thing! I was also wondering why you chose not to be tested for HIV. That was definitely something I wanted to know if I had!
And I wanted to wave, since you are the first person I've seen on here who admits to being in my area!
Peace, Dawn
Me 45/H 47, no kids Together since 1985; M/1992 Bomb1 (EA-OW1, age 22) 2001 Bomb2 (EA/PA-OW2, age 22) 10/2007, A continues H left 11/24/08 minimal contact, no legal action http://tinyurl.com/DawnHope1
I didn't want to be testing for HIV because I was with H when he went through 3 major HIV tests in the past. I just didn't feel like that was something necessary at this point. I pass out whenever I have to have blood taken and I didn't have anyone there to drive me home. So maybe another time I will feel it is needed. But I also know that HIV takes several months before it shows up, and it would be too soon.
I was pretty dumb to believe that H had only kissed the OW when we had sexual contact in February. But I know that I was doing at the time what I felt was best for my marriage and asking him to use a condom wouldn't have helped anything. I can't go back and change things that is for sure.
Nothing is really clearing up after using the medication for 2 treatments. At least things aren't really bad (3 warts). But if they don't go away I will have to wait until December before I can have them burned off (and that doesn't sound like a good time).
I told XH about it all today and he doesn't think he was the one who gave it to me. Yeah whatever! He had unprotected sex with a women who told him she had HPV! Just because he isn't showing any symptoms doesn't mean that he can't be a carrier. He did feel bad about the whole thing and offered to take me to any doctor's appointments I might have (no thanks). While he isn't getting his in means of STDs he is getting his.
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
I have so far not come back with warts, but my H did. So it is something I am worried about as well, especially since I could be carrying it.
I need to go get tested again. Joy and rapture.
It will be okay though.
Just hang in there. If they have to do anything more, it will probably just be liquid nitrogen. Which isn't bad. It's what they use for any warts, even just the ones you could get on your finger.
Stay strong sweetie.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
This whole wart thing is a nightmare. I am now using Apple cider vinegar to clear them up. It burns and itches and I am uncomfortable 24/7. But nothing else is clearing this crap up. I just want them gone.
I did tell XH about all of this. He didn't seem too concerned. But said that he felt really bad for "ruining my life" like this. I told him that my life is not ruined in any way at all. I just wanted him to know about it so that he isn't spreading it to other women around town. He just laughed it off. Whatever...at least he knows about it.
My doctor asked if the OW had the warts. I told her that I knew she has HPV but did not know about the warts. And I sure am not going to ask!!!
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
I did tell XH about all of this. He didn't seem too concerned. But said that he felt really bad for "ruining my life" like this. I told him that my life is not ruined in any way at all. I just wanted him to know about it so that he isn't spreading it to other women around town. He just laughed it off. Whatever...at least he knows about it.
(((Sara))) he can be such an assclown sometimes. So sorry you are still having to deal with fallout from this. Hugs to you and I hope things get better soon!
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
I realized that I never did tell you all the outcome of this ordeal. I want to let you all know because hopefully you will think before having sex with your spouse who is being unfaithful.
In November, I found more warts. A LOT more. They were bleeding and it was terrible. I went to the GYN and had them burned off in 4 seperate sessions. It hurt like something terrible, but it wasn't nearly as bad as it sounds. I can happily say that I am now 100% free of all genital warts. Yeah!
I also had the HPV test done in December, which came back normal. They assume at this point that what I had was just a virus and not cancer causing HPV, although if I do have HPV it could show up as far as 5 years from now! I just hope that they don't.
Everyone please be careful and if you haven't already, make sure you do get checked for STD's. I had sexual contact with my H in February 2008 and I didn't have any signs or symptoms of an STD until Aug 2008.
Sara
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
THANK YOU for having the courage to post this. I try to advocate this all the time, and pretty much get blasted for it for being "dramatic" and "harsh."
There's nothing funny about sexually-transmitted diseases, including HIV. This happens more than it's even reported, and that alone is awful. I know it sounds like a cliche, but when you decide to have unprotected sex with someone who is wayward, you are then basically having unprotected sex with not only their OM/OW, but everyone THEY have had sex with in the past few years. And the health statistics on THOSE people is NOT pretty.
Your words are going to save someone a whole lot of pain.
I was also wondering why you chose not to be tested for HIV. That was definitely something I wanted to know if I had!