All right DBers, I've got my story to tell........I need major help.....
Six years ago my wife walked away, 2 kids ages 2 and 12 at the time. She had an affair at work, all the typical stuff saying she didn't love me anymore, wanted out. Well she divorced me, married the guy, divorced him to reconcile with me after a few months of him. Well we remarried in in 2005. She was so happy to be back home. Well to make a long story short, about 9 months ago, she started having affair with this guy again after he was married again, then divorced. She left 6 months ago. I'm left with the kids, now 8 and 18. Daughter is 8, son is 18. I love them with all my heart, both want their mother to come home. I've not been very good at DBing during this 6 months.
Many of you may say I'm crazy for even wanting her back, but you don't know how much I love my kids and will do anything for them to be able to have peace. Once I said "I do" I meant it. Committment and a vow to the Lord Almighty is not something to take lightly. I know she loves me, she's almost come home a time or two, but hasn't. Kids need her, especially daughter.
I dated a nice woman during the first separation, and the jealousy about killed her. The woman fell in love with me and it wasn't easy breaking up.
It's a mess now.
Help please......
Me:53 W:50 M:29 years T: 30 years Children: S21, D12
Not sure if you are new to this website or not (it wasn't clear in your first post...) but this section of the board moves pretty slowly....go up and post the same thing in newcomers and you will more likely get more respones...
The only thing I would comment on in your story is this: "now 8 and 18. Daughter is 8, son is 18. I love them with all my heart, both want their mother to come home".
I know you love your W too, but this comment says specifically that you love the kids so much. There is a big difference between loving the kids so much you don't want them to suffer more pain...and loving your wife so much you are suffering without her.
I know it is implied in what you wrote that you want the W back, but really make sure it is HER you want back and not the kids' mom, etc.
Again, please post up in newcomers! You'll get more responses...
