I've been having a lot of fun making new friends and participating in new activities. GAL can really turn your life around, especially as a way to cope with the end of a relationship, loneliness, etc. I can actually say I have the feeling of loving life many days when I'm absorbed in new activities, meeting friends, etc. I'm having more fun than I had been previously in my M in many ways. I'd highly recommend to everyone just to get out and find new people or try new things. I also moved to a new city, so exploring places and learning about my new city adds to the fun too!
DBer since 2003 D - 3/24/09 GAL and DBing for myself
I reconnected with co-workers who laugh a lot and can turn anything that happens into a fun situation. Some used to make fun of me coming in the mornings because I am not a morning person. But they would greet me and tease me. I used to ignore it and now I engage in it. The results - I get hugs, I laugh, and on the days I feel like crying, they take me aside, listen, and comfort me. I don't usually feel like going into work most days still but at least I know that something will go right. (This is important because H and I work at the same place and our offices are next ot each other - our R has been like living in a fish bowl.)
Second positive thing is that there is no more conflict in the home! My kids are feeling more relaxed and spending time with me when possible.
I have found that since my marriage difficulties things are either very up or very down. During the good part of my marriage I can say that it was nice. Was it fun? Not sure. Not really it was enjoyable.
Now I have a lot of fun, I do a lot for me. I play ball, kickbox, go out with the girls, go to friends houses for cards. I have probably increased my social activity by 200%.
But there seems to be a lack of a midline, when I am not out doing those things I feel more low, like as soon as its over it is the wait till next time there is something to look forward to.
Me-33 H-36 D-5 EA/PA-Late 2007-? H moved out April 2008 Legal Separation signed Dec 2008
I think i forgot how to have fun. My W and I used to go out and sing karaoke pretty often. Ive gone out a few times but after running a bar that seems pretty lack-luster. Ive been trying to find activities that i would enjoy doing. When my situation allows im going to join the Y, I take my daughter to the park a lot. I cant seem to find many things to do that W and I didnt do together...
suggestions?
Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.
Mountain biking, hiking, fishing canoeing (not sure of the spelling on that one lol), reading, cooking out, camping, writing music, journaling, these are all things ive started doing again. ive even gone on a date or two, nothin romantic just hanging out. I have a hell of a lot more good days than bad now!
Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.
Hi, I run a bar with my mom also, so people often think I am having fun but it is actually work. Sometimes work is fun but I would not be there by choice.
I like to see live bands or go to film festivals. It is great to be around creative people.
I have two kids so having fun is limitless with them! We sit on the porch and visit with neighbors. Becoming a single parent has actually opened me up more to others. Because I no longer have a man around the home, I have been forced to become a better neighbor. I should have always been that way!
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
I have gone back to work for the first time in 5 years (been seriously ill) and am only now realizing how much I missed it! It's nice to interact with someone outside of my own family on a daily basis again.
Can`t believe how much fun DBing is! Yeah, I feel the pain but GALing is a great way to escape so I -been to a whole ton of movies these past few months -am meeting up with lots of friends-old and new -reading every self help book on the planet -playing piano -walking/cycling/yoga -enjoying the kids -sharing on DB forum
I've been reconnecting with old friends & it's great. I've also been spending a ton of time with my S...when I have him...and I'm busy redecorating the house since W moved out last weekend.
My biggest hurdle will be getting out there & making new friends & trying new things. I'm the kind of person who is a lot of fun around people I know...but I'm quiet around people I don't know well. Always been that way. Once things settle down a bit, I'll need to take some classes, join a gym, something to make myself get out there.
Me-39 W-31 S-4 Bomb- 9/5/09 Discovered EA- 9/15/09 Found "proof" that EA is most likely a PA- 10/8/09 W moved out 10/31/09
