Strength. Independence. No longer feeling like I have to please a woman in order to keep her, but instead knowing I am valuable and should be valued. Asking for what I want instead of settling for what I get. Building wealth again. Being the rock for my daughters. Living the life God intended, not the one I allowed to happen.
I'm doing well...reconciled for 1.5 years now. Life is normal..which means it could be better, could be worse. I don't want to threadjack Frank's thread. Thanks for asking Jack.
PoohBear
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
Right about keeping on your toes. There are some things you can't help. You try to change yourself, and at some point you realize you don't like what you've become. I've learned that I like me the way I am. I learned that life does go on after a M crashes. And I hope I've learned how to handle things should this happen again. All of these things will come to Frank one day. But not yet. He still has some time to go. Time will be your friend and enemy all at the same time. Practice patience.
PoohBear
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
I have to agree. I 'changed myself' and didn't like who I had become - someone who was constantly feeling like my marriage was always on the edge of a cliff. If I 'messed up' she'd be gone again.
I did mess up eventually, I mean how long can you carry such an emotional burden on yourself.
So now I 'get it', that I need to believe that I'm worth being with just as I am. Flaws and everything. And that a good partner will help me when the flaws show up.
Right now I only have myself, so I have to help myself with those flaws.
As far as the divorce, I am going to see how quickly I can get it done. With luck W will be single again by her birthday in July.
