WCW, lol, normal is the last word that springs to mind for these situations.
Quote: Even a normal R has ups and downs and cycles.
I agree but this is so far removed from normal you cannot possibly compare.
naej, I wasn't comparing I was simply validating MG's feelings. Even a normal R has ups and downs of how much love or in love you feel toward a S. Not many M's are a '10' every hour of every day. Even the best slip. The only comparison would be that with a WAS or MLC it is even harder to 'feel the love'. We cycle too.
bnd, even though there is a difference between MLC and WAS the pain of being LBS is still there. That's why we are here for support. Limbo isn't fun.
MG, is there any opportunities at your job to climb the ladder? I've heard it can be a pretty good career if you can stick it out.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
Everyone's hours were being cut and I was only working maybe 8-12 hours per week at the very most. I put in my notice and even though I am doing my selling, I am keeping my eye open for other opportunities.
There was no room for advancement as this was a family owned franchise and all of their kids and grandkids (and the owners) were/are in charge. I have to say after working in this type of business, there is no way I would ever want to get back into it. Human Resources is more my specialty (Benefits and administrative).
With regard to H. It is so easy to veer off course from what I and many others have been doing (standing, praying, putting our faith/trust in God). My pattern seems to be when he is not here or does not contact us like I might think he should, that is where I begin to have doubts about my feelings, etc.
When he is here, yeah, he comes in all moody and everything but deep down, I know it is not us at all. After awhile, he can be okay. I have been doing a good job of letting him be for about 30 minutes while I am doing other things and he is out of sight. And really, how can you avoid someone in such a small house.
Sure, I get disgusted with what he is doing but I cannot change anything about it either.
As my son told me lastnight, Dad is just drifting, going around in circles, not making any decisions but he always comes back here and is with us.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I signed off to early this morning...missed this post. MWG, I can't think of the words to tell you what I am thinking of right now. Awesome doesn't even begin to express it. I am not going to put you on a pedistal...but I want you to know that through your pain and your disappointments I am still able to see what God is doing for you.
I am sorry about your work.
You and your family are in my prayers. I am going to go away for a little while. (I don't have a definition of a little while.) I just need to fully rely on God again and not what is happening in your life and the lives of everyone else on this site to give me hope. When I get my eyes off of Him I get depressed, discouraged, and lonely. So, I know what I have to do.
Keep up the good work and the faith. When it's time - God will lead me back to this site. Keep your eyes on God.
have been very busy today--so far. have had a big burst of energy and have put all the christmas boxes away, straightened up the garage somewhat, listed h's real estate books for sale, and it looks as though i have one or two buyers for my fine china. that makes me a little sad but it is only material stuff.
i took the girls to the mall and h will pick them up later on.
i have been upping my prayers lately because i feel as if i have been slacking off. not on purpose but i just seemed to lack motivation. who knows, maybe a temporary form of depression???? plentyhope gave me some wonderful prayers and i will share with you on the prayer thread.
time to get back to some chores.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
BND, I know there's a definate difference in MLC and WAS. MWG, I don't think your H or mine are a WAS. If they were, they'd have filed for D by now and have NC with us. Both of our H's are in need of help and are having difficulty getting it, but are definately trying.
MWG's Husband is definately MLC. His depression and mood swings and the things he comes out with are classic.
Dar, I know I am not a professional, and I do not claim to know everything.... but I can tell you from your posts here and from what I do know about your situation that your Husband may be in a crisis of sorts, but it is not MLC.
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
BND, why do you choose to think you know so much about my H and me? You got a supposed email that you keep to yourself and now you believe he's a WAS when all along you said he's MLC. You even told me that if he were a WAS, he'd have filed and have no contact after all this time. You know nothing about me as you claim too. We haven't spoken for some time now and alot of things are changing. Believe it or not, I really don't care. You're nothing to me but a cyber being. Why are you still here if your life is so grand? Don't waste space on others threads, please, go right to mine. It's not kind of you to do this to anyone.
