As I understand it, some people are interested to know why I was given back my privilege to post on this site after willfully breaking the rules a few weeks ago and posting my email address in addition to later taking a public stand against another individual who also posts here.
I can not tell you why they allowed me to come back.
But I will tell you why I emailed Virginia last night and asked.
I have friends here that I care about and have walked through a lot of stuff with over the last 3 years. Who have walked through a lot of stuff with me. I didn't take them into account when I was acting like a brat and being rebellious. Over the course of the time I was banned, I was invited elsewhere and very much appreciate that but can you imagine the daunting task I'd face if I set out to tell my whole story again?! LOL - It overwhelmed me just to think of it. I am glad for the people who have left here, voluntarily or otherwise, that found new niches. I am glad for those who emailed me and invited me to join them. I didn't find a new niche though.
Divorcebusting.com is a place we have been able to come and share the states of our marriages - and minds - and not be interrupted by outside things - advertisements, etc... - we are able to focus here when we need to and we can go off on crazy rabbit trails being silly when we need a break. Having our own threads allows us to keep everyone's story straight. I got confused offsite a couple times - with newer people - because there was no central location I could hop back over to and review the facts before I shot off a reply. I chalk a lot of this problem up to being a scatterbrain sometimes but truly, I didn't realize how good things are HERE. It never occured to me that THERE ARE NO ADS! With the exception of Michelle's products, which are in a specific location for ordering, there is not one single ad on this site. In 3 years that never occured to me! But elsewhere, in the last 3 weeks, I've been blasted with ad after ad and that doesn't work well for me. So that's just another way in which I came to appreciate things here.
Perhaps I'm old school, hardheaded or just a creature of habit. You may think all my reasoning is lame. That is your preroggative. But I definitely have a new appreciation for the service this website offers to those of us with marital problems.
I no longer care about the extraneous people that pass through here and don't take it seriously. I don't care about those who are less than honest. I know that I am honest - I know sometimes to a fault - and that will not change. I probably won't ever be real prone to coddling. Those who know me know that. Those who meet me and don't like that about me have the option of not associating with me.
Last but certainly not least, I asked to come back because this site helps me. Posting to others helps me keep myself straight. I veer off course and I take leaves of absence but I always end up back here because of the people I care about. It is because of them that I keep walking this walk that might still one day end in my own marriage being restored - but even if that never happens, these people here...and these serious conversations that we have about life and love...they change me. And in coming back I hope that I can contribute something to some of the people here and I hope some of you will continue to help me try to be better than I'm sometimes inclined to be ~
No matter the reason we are glad you and your perspective are back.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
You actually sound like the MLCer that realizes the grass is not greener on the other side. Just like leaving an M thinking there are better things out there, only to realize that what you had was a good thing after all. I'm not sating it's all rainbows and lollipops...but it wasn't so bad after all. There's a lot to be said for humility. In coming back, you have set a good example for all of us to follow. Welcome back and good luck.
PoohBear
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
I am glad that the people, not powers that be, but real life, real feeling flesh and blood people who help run and maintain this site and resource have allowed you back.
Thank you. Thank you Virginina. Thank you SG. Thank you James. Thank you Michele.
Amy C is of value here too many of us for the new a guide, for the old a friend of great worth.
Thank you.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
