I am an old poster here. I have had a long history of dealing with a MLC, and it is still in progress. I am divorced, doing well even though it is not my wishes. It seems like it is the time of year that brings out the potential MLC, and the doors are opening all around me, and I see marriages of 1 1/2 years to 15 years plus falling apart. THis weekend I go a glimps into the sad mind of a WAS, possible MLC. She was a mess. She is a Mom acquantance, the blonde bombshell, and all the equipement to match. She is her daughter's best friend, but sometime the daughter has to become the parent. I just got to know the woman last night and because I was sober, got to drive her home while she sobbed and told me her divorce story,,,,,, she wanted it. She wanted me time, did not know until she was final, that she had full custody of the kids, while X got a new apartment and she got the house. She is not happy with her lot, and grumbled about it...... she wants to trade her minivan in for a 2 seater sports car, on a part time job, and 2 kids at home.
She was pouring out her story, and crying and telling me how responsible she feels for all the hurt and pain,
and and and,
It was exhausting. And sad.
Just thought you would like to see a glimps of the mind. To everyone else, she looks happy and content. Everything she wants. Car, home children, husband who supports and don't have to clean up after...
OM? Can't say, she did not reveal.... But if I had to put money on it....
SHE IS NOT HAPPY!
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Holly, sounds like a pure idiot to me. I have no sympathy for people like that. She asked for it, she got it. Someone needs to tell her to bring a comfy pillow and lay down in that nice little bed she made and grow up.
I have started this thread for friends just like you. I want you to see a glimps of the pain and agony that these people go through. I do have compassion for these people, it is SO hard to do what they do. I feel lots of other things too, but if I can be friendly as she finished this journey, then, I will do this. It is a spiritual thing for me. I do not want that pain for anyone. I hope you will respect my viewpoint, as I do you.
Yellow!!!!! I am fine. Not much happening other than I am still standing, quietly and peacefully. I am just fine! BND, how ya doing? Miss our talks. Still a fan.
Cinders, I may not post alot, because I do not have anything going on. I am fine. Still making my decisions, for ME. i am still hopeful.
I did have an interesting thing happen Friday night. I was in the grocery store, and I got a phone call from the phone number that TJ had on our cell phone plan. He has not used that phone since he moved, 2 1/2 years ago. I did not answer the phone, but TJ from what I gather, lives alone, but I am sure OW visits from out of state often, and she used to live there. Who called? No message,
I would like to think it was TJ, just seeing if it worked, but who knows.
I just keep on keepin on!
Cheers,
Buckets full...
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.
Thanks for the update. It's nice to see a familiar person. Most of my old peeps are gone. I think a lot were banned because it's mighty lonely over on Surviving.
You sound well.
Hugs, Spitty
Always do right. This will gratify some people, and astonish the rest. Mark Twain
Holly, I sure do respect your viewpoint, very much so. Just because people don't agree on something doesn't mean that we cannot respect someone elses point of view. I probably should be more like you toward MLC, but I cannot at this time. I guess as this is my 2nd time dealing with this, first was when I was a kid, sympathy toward these people of destruction is just not there. Anyway, interesting post no the less.
I am constantly reminded of a Bible verse which says something like:
Be ye kind, one toward another, always forgiving as Christ would have forgiven you.
People cannot move on and be at peace unless they have it in their hearts to forgive, be kind, or it will eat away at a person holding that anger in.
Last edited by MidwesternGirl; 01/26/0901:53 PM.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
