Sometimes I read and feel I got the short end of the stick, other's I am thinking I am Mother Teresa, usually I feel I married the wrong man (after I read your and other friend's posts here).
Some women are acting like spoiled kids. My C would say, someone lets them. I dont know anymore what is correct or wrong. So, follow your feelings, your heart since following your mind and common sense doesnt seem to get you anywhere... xxx K
Ok, probably a bit silly not to have just got the CD, but jesus !!! I wouldn't expect my kids to throw a wobbly like that if not getting something they wanted and they would be told about how ungrateful they were being too.
Sorry, Lan, I'm probably not a great deal of help to you of late, but all I see is this super unbelieveably patient nice guy getting walked over by someone, who from the outside looking in, does not deserve you !!!
Something in DB springs to mind for me here, doing something different. I'm not sure what that is, but have you thought about that ?
There are a few other things that W doessn't understand like what effect her on line activities are having on our R. So tonight I will let her know what I think and how I feel then get back to gettting on with things and taking your advice.
On the flip side (pun intended, get it? I guess CDs don't have a flip side like records did, but anyway...), your w asked for a small gift (just a CD) and you didn't get it for her! She may be seeing your actions as you not thinking she's worth the effort to get out to a store and pick up a $12 CD for her. And you didn't get her anything else either, except a card. All at a time when she's feeling sad about her dad and you're supposedly working on the m. From what I read, you have a w who needs A LOT of assurance. She told you what was important to her (and you didn't agree that it was important) and you ignored her and expected her to be happy anyway. I agree with the others that she acted very childish about it, though, and I don't see a problem with you letting her know that.
Well, gee, I want to step in here and take up for Lan. I guess I feel like a mom or something.....it's okay for me to give him a 2x4, but I don't want anyone else to.....lol. Seriously, Lan has been through the mill and has stuck by his wife when others would have thrown up their hands and left a long time ago. I do see the point New Attitude is making, but just wanted to remind Lan not to slip backwards and getting sloppy at this point of the R.
I also wished I could get my hands on that wife of his!! Man, if I could only tell her what those Internet activities can lead to! Don't wait too long before you lay it on the line to her, Lan, b/c most people do not want to "willingly" lay that aside. After all, whatever the addiction is that has a hold on us......we don't want to see it as an addiction nor turn it loose. There are soooo many things on the Internet now days that can take up too much of what should be devoted to family time. You've got emails, FB, utube,bogs, games, on and on (that I don't know much about, obviously) but I know just the chat boads can be addictive and dangerous when there is flirting involved.
I sure hate seeing her behaving like this after all this M has gone through.
What I see happening to families in the near future is not good. When I was a kid, at least the entire family sat around the TV watching it "together". Now, each family member goes off into separate rooms to get their tech toy. Not good.
Take care, Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
