I am fine, living an easy life with no complications. I am a D woman, and I am quietly standing for my marriage.
I have not seen X is about a year. I have not spoken to him directly in as long. We have exchanged a few emails, all initiated by him. I believe he is still with OW, but I am not sure. He was with her over the holidays, but I have not heard anything.
At least until yesterday. On Sunday I had a bad day. It started with a moment that I had an overwhelming feeling that something was wrong. It was a real connection, and I felt it had to do with TJ. I did nothing about it, but it lasted most of the day. It was just a nagging concern. I have never had this before. So Monday am on my way to school, I thought about and then text TJ's sister. She is safe, and understands alot about MLC and depression. I told her that I did not need a reply, but I had an overwhelming feeling that something was wrong with TJ. I was asking her to check on him, especially spiritually. I would rest easier knowing that someone who loves him would check on him. She did reply. She told me it was funny that I had those feelings, because she believes TJ is near the bottom. He came to town and went to church with her family and they had a good talk. SHe also ask me is I still love him, and if I had communicated that to him. I told her that I was praying like he is coming home, and living like he is not.(her advice to me) I also told her that the bottom was somewhere in his future, but not as soon as we might think. I have not talked to or seen TJ in about a year, and I have not told him. I also said that it was God's place to move TJ to contact me.
She thought that was a good point.
So if I am to analyze this, I would thank God for the glimpse at where he is, but have to get back to living my life.
I am hoping that Snodderly stops by and gives her insight.
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.
Holly thanks for your update I have often wondered what happened in your situation You have been at this for so long and it is amazing how long many of these mlcers avoid hitting bottom mine has often looked like he hovers right above it but never actually crashes breton is right your intuition is strong and it is good that his sister is a trusted friend keep praying and keep us posted peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
Good to see you're doing so well, and glad to see you update your sitch for those that keep an eye out. Sorry about the D but it does seem to be part of the mlc journey, eh.
Hope the girls are doing well and life is good to them. Still teaching the little ones? Or swim lessons? I thought by now you might be giving pole lessons. Hey, sign my old self up. Not that I'd dance, but sure to pay to watch the lesson !!!
TJ is blessed to have caring souls watching out for him cause he sure will make a big dent when he hits bottom. Be prepared to wear head protection if you enter the destruction zone. Take care of yourself, live the better life ... and dance like no one is watching. Peaking is still ok, right?
Hi Was!!! My brother just moved to Tyler, does your bike and Chaps get that far?
I might have to visit then.
BTW where is F1?
I have a very funny story.
I am a K teacher. I am very unstructured, and really enjoy my students. We had Kindy Roundup last night and I presented an overview of writing. I invited 2 of my darlings to showcase their talents, they are the sweetest and best of my students. They framed me.
I encouraged them to demo their writing skills, and as always their own thoughts are the best.... This is what they wrote.
Mrs. S dances on the table. (true, but I deny.) Mrs. S gives us ice cream Mrs. S is naughty. Mrs S. lets us eat lunch in the room. Mrs. S. spanks us. She claps.
Please hang on while I explain. It is a birthday spanking and I do not make contact with them at all. It is a choice, and I also explain that I will not touch them but put on an elaborate show while I clap. I have good actors and actresses. They scream and holler. I do not touch their bottoms.
I was so red, and trying not to defend myself, I guess the prospective parents were OK, but the kids were a bit scared.
I hope it does not make the new in this small town.
And they giggled and spoke while they were writing.
I think I will find a new profession.
I wonder how the money is in pole dancing.
H.
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.
I believe so much in intuition and it seems you have good timing.
Keep giving us updates as they come.....
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Don't know about the local news there, but it is making headlines here already. In fact, guys are lining up to celebrate their birthday! I didn't know some people have more than one a year.
F1 is detailing the bach pad in WY. On the market now. Have seen amazing photos of finished house (of course), bison in yard, elk herd scratching against side of house during migration, and most recently moose butt outside kitchen window. However I think that one might have been a rogue plumber who didn't want to leave after the work was finished.
Word is that Tigger is Tiggerific. BA has great new gig just made for an animal lover. Moved to new house in NC and makes trips to office (plus apt) in NY. Don't know if she started Trivia team there yet or season tickets. Not even sure if she adopted new baseball team yet, or staying loyal to Atlanta.
I used to have a lakefront place outside Tyler. After work on Fridays it was take the top down and make the 90 mile ride to the piney woods of east Tex for the weekend. Blood pressure goes down there. People talk slower and longnecks become fashion statements. Got rid of the lake house and car when someone wanted to quit work and have kids. I didn't see the pattern back then; someone getting rid of everything when it became boring and something new sounded like a better life.
There is pole dancing in Tyler, but it is often a metal fence post sticking out of the middle of one of those big wooden spools that phone cables come on. You turn the wooden reel on its side and stick the metal pole in the hole in the middle. Of course, if you drink too much and dance too near the edge of the makeshift table ... you get the idea. Just think splinters!
I'm guessing your brother doesn't know all those little things that make the area special just yet. Like sitting on the deck at the lake drinking pitchers of margaritas and listening for the bell. The bell is tied to the huge rubber band stretched out into the lake from a post on the edge of the water. The rest of the line has catfish hooks and bait, just under the water. When a six pound cat gets on the line it shakes the bell. After pulling the stretch line in and unloading the snack, you re-bait the hook and let it back out; then blend another pitcher of drinks.
The most well known biker bar there closed when the grandma owner passed. Shotguns on bikes were common, but good folks. May be open again now; not sure. I guess its good that your k-kids didn't write a story for the new parents about teacher has a friend with @ssless chaps!
Glad to see God is sending you good news. You have always said that he would have to go completely through the process before he would hit bottom. I am in awe of your faith and calm. I love your student story. God bless you.
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
A quick update as I think this is significant: I got an email from TJ asking me if I would go to D 22 graduation from college. I had discussed it with her, and since her 2 sisters did not walk, then I would not force her. She was fine with that. Well TJ put it to me that D22 would reconsider if BOTH of us would attend. What did I think? I replied "that would be nice".
No reply. So tonight D22 picks Beth and I up from the airport (spring break trip) and she told me "I am walking". I thought she meant exercising. She proceeded to tell me she knew that I knew because her dad called her and said that I would go. I said, well it wasn't exactly that, but I wanted to know if her dad was bringing his girlfriend before I committed. D22 said she was positive that she would NOT come, 100% ---- as a matter of fact they broke up. She also shared with me: that OW was just awful, OW moved back in with TJ and is now in the process of moving out. TJ had gotten her(D22) a piece of artwork that was just awful, way to young for her, what did I think she should do? (I said don't do anything just pretend that you like it) TJ is willing to give her a loan for law school
D22 did not put any conditions on walking at graduation, but has no idea why TJ wants her to walk, because her sisters did not, and she would have another graduation that was more important.
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.
Hi Holly, can you explain this please. Is it a American thing at graduation ceremonies
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So tonight D22 picks Beth and I up from the airport (spring break trip) and she told me "I am walking". I thought she meant exercising.
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You sound good btw. Are you still adamant you will not attend if OW does, please don't let her rob you of any of the joy and pride in your daughters achievments.
