Hello everyone, stopping in to say I'm thinking of you all and keeping you all in my prayers. Don't ever worry about me, just stopping in to let you know I'm ok.
MC you have one crazy situation, crazy - I don't know if I could have handled it as well as you are, would have made me a basket case keeping you in my thoughts. H4H you seem to be leaning more in one direction, a direction I know you didn't want, you seem to be holding up well. Karen, kat and wdid hey ladies, you know I keep praying for you and I appreciate all the advise and help you have given me over the last year. I find it hard sometimes not to come running to this site to post the stupid stuff me ex-w does or says to get reassurance from you that things will be alright
I know I'll be fine, everyone at this site has something to deal with. I looked around, sooooo many people looking for love, trying hard to reconcile or deal with a D, just the titles of the forums say it all; Divorced but not Done, Piercing Our M back together, We're Separated What Now, Surviving the big D and on and on and on.
My situation is nothing special and I'll have to deal with the stupid stuff my ex-w does and says for the rest of my life, I'm still dealing with the anger and pain, but all that means is that I loved my ex-w as much as anyone could have loved another person for it to hurt that bad. There is nothing wrong with loving someone that much. They say time heals all wound and life is a rollercoaster, time is on my side and I'm sure I'll have more ups and downs in my life.
You're a special group of people and you should be proud of yourselves for helping each other deal with all this crap and helping the countless others who wander into this site for help (like me)
You know I keep saying thank you, its because I don't think I can ever say it enough
Happy Easter everyone, I keep telling the kids if I ever catch that rabbit, we'll have rabbit stew for dinner
You are all in my thoughts and prayers. Karen, Kat, Cat, Puppy, H4H, WDID, Sara, lwb, MC and everyone else on this site.
I know I shouldn't be afraid To love, for love for any time at all Is worth the price you pay to fall December Dream written by John Braheny
M46 W42 M10.75 years D9, D7, D7, S6 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me New Abbreviation = WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08 D final 02/10/09
Jeff, you know you are welcome here at any time. Whether your ex is living in a tree or you sent her to the moon, we are here for you. I find myself not posting as much. Lurking more frequently on other boards, I just don't have much going on and it seems strange to post that when that is the case.
Life goes on. Good days and bad ones and all those that fall in between. Hopefully the good will out weigh the rest. Have a wonderful Easter with your kids...I hope the bunnies manage to stay one hop ahead of you.
hugs, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Hiya Jeff, and a belated Happy Easter to you. I was cheered to hear that you were doing so well!
Your strength, grace and positive outlook are an inspiration to me, as I know they are to a lot of other people on here. It's easy to be "loving" and "tolerant" and "patient" and "strong" when things break your way; it takes a man of true character to pull them off when heading into a stiff headwind.
Just bumping you up there. Your posts are so inspirational, really. You are truly a man of character. HOpe things are going well for you. Miss you on here. (((JEff)))
I wanted to stop by and say hello, to really let you all know that eventhough I don't post, I still think of you all the time, You are always in my prayers Karen, Kat, Cat, Sara, WDID, H4H MC,Puppy, lwb.
I also wanted to wish a happy mothers day to all the ladies, my exw told me this week she is having a hard time with mothers day coming up (go figure) I didn't say anything to her, she isn't going to take the kids Sunday, I told her to stop by on Sunday night so the kids can give her their mothers day cards and I'll have flowers for the kids to give her.
Dwelling on what she said this week, the kids don't know any better, they still love her and will alway love her no matter what she does, also thinking of fathers day, it wouldn't matter if the kids were with me because everyday is fathers day at my house
We are beginning our busy summer schedule, everyone playing softball/baseball even myself, asked exw if she was going to take kids the night I have softball (no response yet) if not I'll hire a babysitter.
My situation is nothing special and I'll have to deal with the stupid stuff my ex-w does and says for the rest of my life, I'm still dealing with the anger and pain, less anger - I don't know if the pain ever goes away, because we can all remember the happy days, they seem to stick out more then the sad memories, there was really only one major bad time (finding out about OM and going through the seperation/D) the other bad days were just a part of life, M is a road with its ups and downs, you deal with the bad days and move on, focusing on the good. That's were the pain comes from, remembering the good times and knowing there gone. I'm not saying I won't have more happy times going forward, just that the good times as a family with my ex are over.
I'm a lucky man, I have my house and kids (exw has kids 4 days a month) Another man in my parish going through this crap now, and he is going to have to sell their house and split all the assets and fight for his right to see his kids. He hasn't talked to me yet but he knows I'm here for him if he wants to. (relayed to him through mutual friend)
You are all in my thoughts and prayers. Karen, Kat, Cat, Puppy, H4H, WDID, Sara, lwb, MC and everyone else on this site. Happy Mothers Day Ladies.
I know I shouldn't be afraid To love, for love for any time at all Is worth the price you pay to fall December Dream written by John Braheny
Dreaming with a broker heart in St Louis - Jeff
M46 W42 M10.75 years D9, D7, D7, S6 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me New Abbreviation = WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08 D final 02/10/09
You are a very special group of people, in the middle of your life you have to deal with this crap, and you all reach out to try to help other people deal with the same issues you are facing, I will never be able to say it enough, thanks for helping me. Thanks for reaching out to me, I truly believe we will all come out of this better people, whether we eventually reconcile or not.
Thanks for the prayers Jeff. I'm really doing well emotionally; spiritually I have doubts but I keep praying about what I'm supposed to do in my situation.
Interactions with my W are good and cordial...we're almost better friends than we've ever been and that's scary. My W has been spending a lot more time with the kids now that her OM has left her.
hey superdad! thinking of you two, and praying for your wounds to heal, because they heal and God gives us peace when we let go. I too am in that stage, not remembering as much the indignities of his cheating and lying, but the good times, when he was a good H. But, oh, so much ahead of us, so much to do!! hugs))))))))) and blessing your way dear Jeff.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
Good to hear from you Jeff. I know keeping up with 4 kids must be exhausting but I know you can do it. Just think of all the memories you are making with them. They will remember them more in 20 years then they will remember their mother.
M:38 H:42 T:20 M:19 D:18 S:17 MLC: Sometime in 2007 OW Bomb 1: 12/28/07 OW Online relationship 2: Spring 2009 Told him I wanted D: May 10, 2009 D final: 07/09/11
hello everyone, yes its Jeff from St Louis. I know I haven’t posted in quite some time but I had to cut corners somewhere.
Baseball/Softball season is now over for the kids I’m still playing, only 2 more weeks for me - playoffs. I was running 3 to 4 nights during the week and 1 on the weekend going to games and practices.
(daughter just walked into my office and poured me a pretend cup of tea - yum !!!!)
Oh yeah with all this running guess what the laundry never stops coming, that’s what I have on my schedule for this evening.
The kids and myself are all doing fine, I’ll post new pictures on FB later. We typically head up to the pool on Sundays and spend the whole day up their with friends, BBQing and swiming all day.
I've been so very busy, every weekend is packed with stuff to do, even when I don’t have the kids. I really look forward to those nights I have to myself, but when I get one, I fall asleep on the sofa complete exhausted.
Please excuse me for not posting in quite some time, I wanted to stop by and let everyone or I should say anyone interested that I doing fine as could be expected. I’ve said this over and over, that my situation isn’t anything special, I still have issues, I don’t like talking about my situation to others, it makes me feel uncomfortable, I still harbor anger toward ex-w and her boyfriend. I guess that’s normal, I still pray for you all every Sunday at church; wdid, lwb, puppy, cat, kat, karen, h4h, mc, sara
I pray that God’s plan for me includes a tall blond, just kidding, I would like to meet someone nice though. I also remember to thank God for what I have. I’m very lucky to have great kids, a roof over my head, friends and a job.
Ex-w is still out there, head screwed up, like wdid posted several times, she has issues. I won’t go into details because it won’t do any good. She is going to attend school next year, so she won’t see the kids as much, she use to come over every morning and drive the kids to school, now that isn’t going to happen, typical of how it makes me feel, happy that I don’t have to see her but sad that the kids get short changed,
Please excuse me for not posting, I wish everyone well God bless you all.
There you go and baby here am I Well you left me here so I could sit and cry Golly gee what have you done to me Well I guess it doesn't matter anymore
Do you remember baby last September How you held me tight each and every night Oh baby how you drove me crazy But I guess it doesn't matter anymore
There's no use in me a-crying I've done everything now I'm sick of trying I've thrown away my nights Wasted all my days over you
Now you go your way baby and I'll go mine Now and forever till the end of time I'll find somebody new and baby We'll say we're through And you won't matter anymore
There's no use in me a-crying I've done everything now I'm sick of trying I've thrown away my nights Wasted all my days over you
Now you go your way baby and I'll go mine Now and forever till the end of time And I'll find somebody new and baby We'll say we're through And you won't matter anymore No you won't matter anymore You won't matter anymore
M46 W42 M10.75 years D9, D7, D7, S6 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me New Abbreviation = WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08 D final 02/10/09
You are a very special group of people, in the middle of your life you have to deal with this crap, and you all reach out to try to help other people deal with the same issues you are facing, I will never be able to say it enough, thanks for helping me. Thanks for reaching out to me, I truly believe we will all come out of this better people, whether we eventually reconcile or not.
