My Sailor is Back-but not Home

[StrgMarvelousWmn]

SMW, you rock.

And I get that the ship is going into the yards, etc. Two words for CPO Dipsh*t: Navy....Lodge. I understand there's one in Gitmo.

Just sayin'.....

Smiley--

LMBO at CPO DipSh*t!!! My cousin has used the same expression to refer to DH.

The Navy Lodge is not free and then he would take it from the money he gives me to support the kids. Right now, he pays everything, plus, so why cut off my nose to spite my face?

I laughed about Gitmo, too. I have a friend whose husband is an officer who works with IAs. They have offered several times to move his name up the list. That would be playing God and those are toes I do NOT want to step on.

Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~
SMW

[StrgMarvelousWmn]

Now that I have caught up, I am off to feed the boys and take my mom to Lowes to by large quantities of dirt to build flower beds in her backyard. It is gorgeous here today and I am hoping to mow the yard when D17 gets home to watch the boys this afternoon.

My SIL called lat night, wanting to know if I had heard from DH at all. She is furious that we have not and that he seems to think he can just waltz in and out of all of our lives. He may not have a very comfortable stay over at their house!

I will be back later! Have a blessed day!

Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~
SMW

[mishka422]

(((((SMW)))))))))

Just caught up. Have to say that unfortunately, I'm not surprised by DH's behavior. He was obviously not out of any portion of the fog during deployment. Hopefully now that he will be back in the area of his family (when does he return from his adulterous galavant to MI?) he will be hammered upside the head by God with the wrong of what he is doing. If not, the man has no conscience!

I am praying for you and your beautiful family.

As an aside, going back to what cookie said, God is using you as an example for others so they can see how His love and Mercy can work through His faithful servant. Honestly, I've been looking at my own sitch as God using me to warn others how NOT to be complacent in their M's. I am a walking billboard for "DO NOT DO WHAT I DID!"

[pearlharbr]

My sole sister, glad you're wearing the sassy shoes!

I want to go to the movies Friday night--Hugh Jackman, Wolverine, YUMMY!

Oh yeah, me too! Love X-Men and Hugh. Sigh.

I will get out for me soon. I went out with my mom and ate banana splits for dinner last night!

Did we talk about this before? I did have a period in my life many years ago where I ate banana splits for dinner for two weeks straight. Why? Because I could!

I know you are focused on the kiddos right now but getting out for yourself is good for them also. They need to see that their mom values herself enough to do things that make her happy. They may not get that right away but they will when they are older.

[StrgMarvelousWmn]

(((((SMW)))))))))

Just caught up. Have to say that unfortunately, I'm not surprised by DH's behavior. He was obviously not out of any portion of the fog during deployment. Hopefully now that he will be back in the area of his family (when does he return from his adulterous galavant to MI?) he will be hammered upside the head by God with the wrong of what he is doing. If not, the man has no conscience!

Well, we can question the conscience, as DH said he was going to change his plane ticket to come back a day or two early and no big surprise--he did not do it. He is supposed to be back sometime tonight. I don't know what his plan is, as he could not give ANYONE the courtesy of a phone call this past week+. No, you are right, the fog is still quite thick. I guess I am still the lighthouse trying to beam through.

I am praying for you and your beautiful family.

Thanks for the continued prayers. The kids have still not really asked for him. Kind of sad, really. They are beautiful kids with huge hearts that he is crushing daily. They are quickly learning they cannot depend on DH.

As an aside, going back to what cookie said, God is using you as an example for others so they can see how His love and Mercy can work through His faithful servant. Honestly, I've been looking at my own sitch as God using me to warn others how NOT to be complacent in their M's. I am a walking billboard for "DO NOT DO WHAT I DID!"

You were not the only spouse to ever get complacent--we all do it to some extent. However, NONE of us deserve what has happened to us--especially the way these WAHs blindside us with their As. I know one day God will use this journey as a testimony of His grace and mercy. He is truly awesome and I count my blessings that I have chosen to walk with His guidance instead of man's.

Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~
SMW

[StrgMarvelousWmn]

My sole sister, glad you're wearing the sassy shoes!

I want to go to the movies Friday night--Hugh Jackman, Wolverine, YUMMY!

Oh yeah, me too! Love X-Men and Hugh. Sigh.

I will get out for me soon. I went out with my mom and ate banana splits for dinner last night!

Did we talk about this before? I did have a period in my life many years ago where I ate banana splits for dinner for two weeks straight. Why? Because I could!

I don't think we have talked banana splits before. The place we go also lets you bring your own bananas on Thursday for half price banana splits! We try to take the kids once a month during the summer.

I know you are focused on the kiddos right now but getting out for yourself is good for them also. They need to see that their mom values herself enough to do things that make her happy. They may not get that right away but they will when they are older.

That is why I have my church group and I do get out with my mom on occasion. My two closest friends are also homebodies devoted to their families and we spend time on the phone in the evenings. I do not like to party or hang out in clubs, but I do like to dance. Maybe I will see if my sister wants to go out next Thursday--we can go to the country bar we used to get thrown out of ! The added benefit is it used to drive my DH nuts when I went out with my sister, as her morals are in the toilet. Or, maybe I will just go shoot pool with my cuz who will be here this weekend for her wedding shower.

I am enjoying life the way I like to best and I guess that is the best way to do it.

Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~
SMW

[FitChik]

SMW,

I haven't gotten a chance to read your update but will soon. You and your family are in my prayers :-)

[Racefan]

{{{sis}}}

What to say....?

Sounds as though someone was on a 7 month vacation from reality and responsibility and hit the pier thinkin he was still at sea. Maybe Mrs. Bobbit didn't have a bad idea at the time, oh wait sorry that was rude.

The kids pretty much have DH figured out D17 for sure, that's good and bad. Good they see thru his lies, bad for the walls that are building higher towards shutting him out, and the hurt of missing him for so long to be shot down in wanting 'their' time. My hugs and prayers go out to them.

So now as FG would say it's time to 'do work'. Time to lay down boundaries when he gets back. He needs to know that you will not accept this behavior and it is not tolerated if you chose to let him stay, doesn't sound like the BIL/SIL's house will be any different. No you can't control him, but you sure can control yourself and what happens around the kids. Remember there is nothing wrong with anger as long as it is constructive to hold it in can be dangerous, builds up to a point where it will burst like a balloon. You have every right to be honest and upfront.

Remember what you have turned into and who you did it for, this is the strength to draw from. You also have a wide support group use it and learn from it. You know what's right and how to accomplish it use the tools to stay your path. Now as hard as it will be remember family means well but stay true to yourself and your convictions on the course you have chosen...

Peace be in you & your families hearts...

Bro

[Tomato]

Hi Sis

just wanted to let you know your family is in my prayers.

you surely are a beacon in the fog.


Glory in Him.


Ted

[StrgMarvelousWmn]

SMW,

I haven't gotten a chance to read your update but will soon. You and your family are in my prayers :-)

FC--

Doesn't look like I will be going anywhere any time soon, so it will be here when you have a chance.

Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~
SMW