Sandi have a question for you. You read my sitch before but the short of it is that my wife left saying I was jealous and just up and left. I was and had my reasons an anything a husband would question. I really think she was trying ro test me ro see if I was like her dad. I think her dad is divorcing her mom because he is an acohllic and is jealous of her the big reason he is jealous is because she does not rsspect him. The question I have is do I try ro contact her and try to talk her out of what she us doing because of her folks or do I let her figure things out on her own? I have left her alone for two months and she is still pushing for a divorce. I am really lost and not sure if I can so anymore to help things out. Thanks Sandi
"Seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well" Matthew 6:33
Hi Sandi. Just wanted to stop by and let you know that I think about you, and how you took the time to help me when I first came here, and to say that I appreciate you. I hope you are happy and well. TTYL.
antlers
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
GoBison, as hard as it is to not try to talk your W out of doing anything based on her parents or anyother reason.....the fact is that if you do talk, then you are hurting yourself. You will be the bad guy in the picture if you try to see her or contact her. She will have to figure some things out...and mostly learn for herself. That is so hard for you and it takes "time". People like you and I want to "help" guide our loved ones, so they can see how things really are, right? However, if you can hang on and give her the time she needs, then hopefully she will turn back to the one who has quietly stood by and loved her. She will see that you did not try to "tell her" what to do. WAW's do not like to be told what to do or think or feel....especially by their LBH.
BTW, just b/c you aren't telling her things....doesn't mean you have stopped loving her. She will figure that out also.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
givingitmyall......thank you for your confidence in me. I take that seriously and I'll do my best to talk to your friend. That is a sad coinsedence about both wives!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
antlers!! You won't believe this, but I had sent you a post before I came here to read this from you. Guess we were both thinking about each other. I had been thinking of asking you to talk to a newcomer for the past few days, so I looked you up today. I know you will be good for this man b/c I read a lot of your posts and you give good advise. I'm so proud of you and consider it a privilege to have you for a friend.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
givingitmyall......thank you for your confidence in me. I take that seriously and I'll do my best to talk to your friend. That is a sad coinsedence about both wives!
Sandi, thank you. I think my friend could use some input from you. Greek and Coach has stopped by his thread, so you could complete the trifecta.
AND, I wanted to tell you how much your guidance meant to me early on. Still in limboland, but moving in right direction. Thanks again.
Oh gosh....all you guys are so sweet! I take back everything I said about "nice guys"! No...just kidding about the nice-guy stuff.....but you all are a wonderful bunch and I hope that each of you know that if it were in my power I would grant the future to be what you desired most. None of you are seen as "just another story" to me b/c you are special, and I mean that from my heart.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
