I've never posted on this board before. But, I've been separated now for over a year. My H left and is living in our camper about 12 miles away. I have a gf who's H once did the same thing. She says that it's the homing instincts, if there ever was such a thing. I still cry just about every day, but I've got my own life now, just not a happy and exciting one. I miss him terribly.
Anyway, he's still paying the electric, the phone, the Internet, the property taxes, and the house insurance, my car payment and the car insurance ... almost everything. But he is almost completely dark. He's been known to sneak home at times, when I was not here, but it's been awhile since I've had any proof. I just wanted to see if there is anyone else on this board in the same or similar situation? And what do you think about it?
I see there are some familiar names on this board. Please, you know who you are. It's just a couple of simple innocent questions. I mean no harm and want no harm. I just would like to know if you are in a similar situation.
My H paid for everything while gone. Even for me to go back to school so I could get a job that would support me after he stopped in a couple of years when I graduated. I should have (according to him) stayed married to him so I could have health insurance.... isnt' that a lovely reason to be married... gag
It was to massage his guilt.
M:47 M:18 D16, S19 1st S 1/08-5/08 Reconciled/May 7, 2008 Left again Nov 9, 2009 I Filed: Nov 17, 2009 Final: April 14, 2010 EX walked away from kids too
My DH pays everything except for my cell phone and my credit card bills, although I could take them out of the money he gives me toward "groceries and incidentals".
DH also got a rude awakening to exactly how expensive it is to feed a family these days after having the kids for three days straight at his brother's house while I ran away from home last weekend. All of the sudden he wanted to talk about grocery shopping this evening.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
Nice to see you. My h paid half the bills until he moved in with his ow and had to start paying bills himself - since then he has paid nothing. Not even what he is supposed to pay half of. However now our house is sold and monies divided so it is not an issue.
I think he paid for so long pretty much because of guilt and he saw it as his responsibility. That is just supposition though.
Hi Poet I'm not familiar with your sitch, but would like to add my H has been gone for 18+ months and still pays all the bills just the same as if he were living there. Not sure how long it will last now that he has OW, she's broke.
It's partly guilt and partly that he feels it's his responsibility - we've got 4 kids still living with me.
Thank you so much, to all who posted here. I really appreciate the input. Sorry I've been away so long. Just trying to live my life day by day. H came back Saturday to get his "SAFETY DEPOSIT" box key. Said he was closing out the account. hmmmmm.
Well, I'm shaking right now. I receiving inside info that my h's attn is filing for divorce. I have also received info that my h has been giving away money to other women.
Well, I'm shaking right now. I receiving inside info that my h's attn is filing for divorce. I have also received info that my h has been giving away money to other women.
I guess I'm numb
Suzanne
hey poet ..we've touched base before, but not for a bit. As you may know a year and a half ago, I was at the same juncture as you ..the filing juncture.. and then that became 'finalized' just over a year ago.
Of course to me the only that is final are things that the Lord is behind and that is never the case with D's.
I am standing in the gap for my M and I am still breathing fine too.
All that said, I feel for you and will include you in my prayers.
