So this past Saturday I had the kids we went to dinner at a place close to EX's...Here's the problem, after eating we're heading out I before I realize it I'm driving by EX's place, not on purpose, more out of habit, whenever i have my kids around that part of town it's always to take them back to her, just wasn't paying attention...
Here's the question...Should I tell her? For some reason I feel a little guilty, I don't want someone else or the kids to say something and have her think I'm some kind of jealous obsessive ex...
Me:40 W: 39 T: 17 years M: 15 years S-9 D-6 D final 11/10/2009
"We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems."
No, don't tell her. Just leave it alone. You shouldn't feel guilty. And who cares what she thinks? You don't have any control over what she thinks anyway, so don't fret about it. Embrace silence. You can't solve a problem with the same mind that created it. Think about stuff differently. Wisdom is avoiding all thoughts that weaken you.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
Yesterday at work EX calls and asks if I can watch the kids for a while because she got a bad haircut...Told her I'd call her back to see if I can change plans.
I decide to go only because my son has two projects due Monday and daughter has one, if I wouldn't have gone she would have taken them with her...Plus I wanted to see how bad the haircut was .
Got there it took everything I had not to laugh how bad the cut was, it was a nice '80's style mullet...We ate dinner and she left to get it cut.
As I was cleaning up after dinner I found a card her boyfriend gave her...I know shouldn't have read it...On the inside it said "thinking of you today" he wrote in naked...I couldn't help but laugh, that's something I would have written in high school, plus he gave her a sweatshirt from his college for her birthday, he's my age, who does that?
Anyhow did get one of my son's projects done and most of my daughters...It was great spending time with them that I normally wouldn't have gotten.
Me:40 W: 39 T: 17 years M: 15 years S-9 D-6 D final 11/10/2009
"We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems."
Haven't posted in a while...so just a little about what's going on, if anything
So the last few weeks I've noticed a change in the EX, not sure good or bad or just change. She's been trying to talk to me a little more...This last weekend was really weird...She got new bedroom furniture so I asked if she needed any help moving it (as I would for any friend :)). She said she had some of our old neighbors to help but if I could help her take apart the old stuff that would be great...She said also "you know how hard it is for me to ask", not mean or anything, but it's true she'd ask anyone but me, so it did surprise me...
Then on Sunday my son got sick, it was my weekend and I was going to keep him over and she was going to pick up my daughter...She was really disappointed and said I really wanted you to see my new furniture...Well son ended up going home saw the furniture and it was nice.
We were talking and joking around and at one point I laughed and said stop giving me a hard time...She says that's my job (she used to say that all the time when we were married)...
She is still dating the same guy I saw a picture she left of them on the kitchen counter, which I almost feel like it was on purpose...She still hasn't intro him to our kids, which is good.
Anyway I'm just not sure like I said I'm just getting a weird vibe from her lately.
Me:40 W: 39 T: 17 years M: 15 years S-9 D-6 D final 11/10/2009
"We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems."
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