Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[TulsaTime]

My prayers go with you.

[blownaway65]

SD, I'm just reading your sitch, up to page 40 now so a fair way to go. I did look at last page and it looks not so good. I'm so sorry.

Please know, to a large extent whatever has happened in between 40 & 146 has most likely been out of your control.

I can see myself and W so much playing out your sitch in the next few months that it's scary for me. Whatever happens, I hope you can see that the people here, who we don't know from a bar of soap, have given the best chance to "salvage" what is at worst the sh1ttiest situation we could ever find ourselves in, and at best the hardest journey we could ever undertake.

Take care, I will catch up once I've read the rest.

If you ever find yourself in the land of beer and kangaroos, look me up.

[OnceBurdened]

I'm praying that my W hasn't poisoned them so bad, that they are in a "fog" as well.

That doesn't work. I've seen the attempt by 2 different parents in 2 seperate D's here locally and both times the kids sniffed it out. Remember, kids don't have adult problems, they are naive, genuine and unencumbered because of it. They know love and recognize it, she will always be their Mom & you will always be their Dad. They don't want to hear bad things @ either of you. Attempted poisoning by a parent will only push them toward the other.

I have hope that my boys will make the right decision. Time will tell.

They will and you will have to accept it.

The reason I say that - a gal I know won custody of her S in a divorce. The D happened because of her H having an A with another man! She discovered it filed for D, he fought for custody but she won.

She walked up to her S @ courthouse and said- " I Won"
S said - " I know momma but I want to live with Dad"
She said " OK, you know I Love You and if that is what you want I will support You"
She said it was the hardest thing to do, but now 3 yrs later she has realized how much closer it put S and her.

I personally could not have handled that situation. In my sitch, when the discussion surrounding custody came up the D wanted to go with W and of course S wanted to stay here with me. W & I decide that there was no way we were going to split them up and so we devised our own custody to accomadate their wishes. It was our intent to protect our children.

Foster them, protect them & love them unconditionally - you will win all that and more back from them in the end.

[bluerain]

Hi SD, been a few days, Hows life, the universe, and everything?

[SoldierDad]

All, I am well. Just been lurking here, still processing all of the garbage I have accumulated in my sitch.

I am detached, and have done so with only 1 hiccup last week. (Thanks for the 2x4 G)

I am so busy, getting ready to re-deploy within a few weeks now!!! I am so ready to get back to civilization!

As I grow stronger, I feel so empowered. I don't NEED this nastiness in my life, and have decided to remove it. I am too good of a man, to sit here, feeling sorry for myself.

I am choosing to LIVE again!!!

[TulsaTime]

Go SD!

You deserve it!

[SoldierDad]

Short update.

Had a good weekend. No contact w/W. Spoke to S12 and he was doing well, still no contact from S15, which hurts, but I'm certain he will come around when I get back.

I did sign up for 2 dating sites. I posted an honest and truthfull profile on both sites, and the response has been, well, overwhelming. I haven't committed anything, to anyone, and won't until my sitch is resolved.

My unit is within 40 days of heading back home, and my Soldiers and I are ready to leave! Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers.

Not much else to report, I am extremely busy and can't find the time to think straight! As soon as I get back stateside, I am positive I will be back for help. But please know that I am in a good place right now, and will continue to work towards my happiness. I'm gonna LIVE!!!

[goldeylox]

Less than 40 days. Woot! Thanks for your service, SD.

[SoldierDad]

Goldey, thanks for your support! Good to see you in the alt. I will post more when I finally get some free time!

[MichelleLT]

Glad things are going smoothly! You sound good! The bumps in the road are only as bad as you let them be.

Have fun counting down the wake-ups.

Try not to let them get careless with their short-timer syndrome lol.