Pls help--confused and fearful

[Tostada]

I'm curious about this owh. I am in contact with omw all the time, we get along well and try to help each other out. We understand the circumstances of why we are communicating. She is a good person who got screwed over.

I'm not saying this owh is a good guy, just trying to figure out his motivation. If you want nothing to do with him, can't you tell him you've moved on with your life and want nothing to do with any of this? If the chain of communication is working from wah to owh, reverse the route and send a drop the rope signal in the other direction.you might eliminate owh from your world as well as rattle wah.

[Day by Day]

Hi Tostada, thanks for stopping by.

Doubt it'll work. OWxH is a very very angry man and wants to hurt OW and WAH. He tries to get me mad like him and tells me hurtful stories of what they are doing. He wants revenge. OW and her X fight a lot still and I believe OW is trying to paint me in the same light to WAH with lies of things OWxH might be saying. Mindreading here, but still things point to that. I believe he's saying we are seeing each other from the way WAH responds to me. Not true... I've only heard his voice, never met him.

[Day by Day]

Agreed. If he keeps it up. Fill harrasment charges against him. Play hardball on this issue. Do not reply. But capture. Record. Use. Protect.

Exactly.

[P17]

I believe he's saying we are seeing each other from the way WAH responds to me. Not true... I've only heard his voice, never met him.

DBD it doesn't matter at this stage if you were Mother Teresa. You are on a hiding to nothing with H and OW. The more you respond and play their game the more the fire is fuelled. Do a 180. Go dark. Work on you and the kids.

Your responses keep them going in their fantasy.

[Day by Day]

I do want to. But my L suggested I continue asking for $ daily until I file for proof of how he's denying it. My utilities might get shut off, but bad for him. He thinks he's spiting me but it only hurts himself. Stupid arrogant man. It's a bit humiliating to beg for $ everyday and get rejected, but it's for a reason. But, you have my promise here... I won't respond. I'll vent here.

Ugh... yes, I agree my responses fuel their fantasy. Sick. Motivation enough not to respond. P, you are pushing my buttons getting me to listen. lol

[P17]

I do want to. But my L suggested I continue asking for $ daily until I file for proof of how he's denying it. My utilities might get shut off, but bad for him.

Well I suppose your L knows best in that department. I would just stick with the same text / email every day asking for money though and ignore the responses. Pretend you're a robot going through the motions

[Day by Day]

Okay, need to vent. ARGH. What an @ss. I'm biting my tongue and just coming here to not respond to this:

As I told you, use the money I left you on the savings account to cover those expenses (there is plenty for up to 4 months of expenses there).

It's interesting that only now you decide to communicate with me even though I notified you of these changes back on Dec. 14th....where I informed you of my last two direct deposits (which should cover you until January 15th). From then on, use the savings account.

Grrrrrr. He's pushing my buttons. I know. I'm going to leave the house to not even be tempted to respond. I hear you P from all the way over here. I'll be back on here later.

[P17]

DBD,

This is going to sound like an odd question - what is so bad about his response?

Don't respond.

[Day by Day]

The "from then on use the savings account". He needs to give me financial support. Those savings are mine only since he separated the savings into his/hers when he left. I need that $ for the L and other things he won't cover.

I won't respond to him. Really leaving now...

[P17]

The "from then on use the savings account". He needs to give me financial support. Those savings are mine only since he separated the savings into his/hers when he left. I need that $ for the L and other things he won't cover.

I won't respond to him. Really leaving now...

Ahhhh. Got it. I wasn't being pedantic. I just wanted to know what the really bugbear was.

So basically the savings he tells you to use are YOUR savings (as he has taken his share of them already)? And he also told you that he said on December 14th that effectively he was depositing two more payments into the non-savings account and that was him done with you financially? He thinks that's all he needs to pay? Am I right there?

Go for a long walk ...