Single in St Louis

[JeffSTL]

Hello everyone, I'm still here Single in St Louis

I haven’t posted in quite some time, I wanted to stop in and say hello, post some updates

I know some of you have moved over to Surviving the Big D from infidelity, I don’t know where to post, I’m also surviving the Big D, and went through the infidelity that ended my M, I guess it doesn’t matter.

I’m staying very busy with the 4 kids, nothing much has changed, I have the kids 26 out of 30 days a month. I have completed several projects, Front and Dinning room remodeling, We are getting ready for Christmas, and trying not to break the bank, I hope everyone had a great Thanksgiving, and I wanted to wish everyone here a Merry Christmas. The kids decorated the tree and have been very good. One of the twins last week needed 5 stitches, she was jumping from bed to bed being a kid and hit the dresser drawer on the landing, oh well better luck next time kid.

I started writing stuff about ex but that realy doesn’t matter, everyone here has issues with S or Ex, my situation is nothing special you can read my past post to see what type of person she is. There is one thing about her that made me laugh, rumor has it that she is engaged to OM and she has been seen wearing an engagement ring. I haven’t noticed, and I still haven’t meet OM, but I need to meet this guy and offer him my condolences.

What a pair they will make, I don’t see how they will be able to trust each other, he is D and was going out with a married woman (my Ex) and she was cheating on her husband.

Wow, ten months after D and Ex-W is already getting married. Life moves on and and I need to also, its difficult being a very shy person with little or no time to get out there and mingle, I did go to a Church Orintated Social Activity with a friend, who happenes to be a girl, she is very nice but she is D also and her ex is always around (she says they’re good friends – little weird for me) but it was fun to get out, I was the perfect gentleman as always and it’s a good start.

Line from Marshall Tucker Song “Can’t You See”

Can't you see, Lord, Can't you see,
what that woman she been doing to me.
Can't you see, can't you see,
what that woman, she been doing to me

I confide in God, that I’m confused, I hope He can see what I’ve been through, but according to the Catholic church I’m still married, so If I do something, I’m committing a sin, Very confusing, if I pay $ to get an annulment all is ok, why does this matter to God when he should know what I’ve been through and how hard I tried to keep the M together.

I’ve kept you in my thoughts and prayers WDID, Puppy, kat, Cat, Karen, H4H, Sara, MC and lwb.

I'm still drawn to this site to see how everyone is doing



M46
WAW 42
M10.75 years
D10, D8, D8, S7
OM confirmed 12/07 merry Christmas to me
New Abbreviation = WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08
W files for D 07/18/08
D final 02/10/09
WAW engaged 11/09

[kat727]

So glad that you stopped by!! It sometimes is nice to come here and reflect and sometimes to vent and sometimes just to chat with the friends we have gone through war with. It feels like that you know. I have met some wonderful people here too. Some don't stop by nearly enough...that's a hint, but still so good to know that we are Surviving.

I won't hijack your thread but am glad to "see" you.
Hugs, kat

[karen43]

Kat beat me here! Jeff-so good to see you post!!! If you ever get a chance, feel free to email me at fb also, and I'll try to email you if you don't mind when I get the chance (although kind of busy this month). I am so glad to hear that you sound great! I moved over here too, and I realized it was way overdue when I got here. I think the people here are more in the same stage of Dbing.

Of most of the people, you listed, our old friends here, I think many of us, def. in your case, with hindsight today I'm thinking most of us are often better off without our WAS. I mean anybody that's too dumb or crazy to realize our wonderfulness--who needs them????

I know you're shy, but if you get out there, the more you do, I think the more you'll realize that, too. At least it's worked that way for me. Most people are very positive, supportive people much more so than our WAS, and that is wonderful to find out.

Re: religion. I've read about this, well looked to the Bible, and from what I've read there, it seems to suggest that you are married unless your spouse commits physical adultery. At that point, you can either choose to continue the marriage or not, and in some of our cases, we weren't left with a choice anyway.
Of course, I'm not a Catholic so I know they are different on some things. I mean this is how I view it, I know everyone has different takes on this.

And again, so good to see you. I always enjoy seeing your posts. Karen