My husband and I have been separated a little over two years. He walked out and though he has consistently said he wants a divorce, there have been no legal papers filed whatsoever, not even for a legal separation. We speak, see each other sometimes (though half the year for work he lives in another state). I work very hard on myself, trying to create my own life, but I want to reconcile with him more than anything.
Wow 2 years!!! I have been for almost 6 months and I don't think I will make it any longer. Do you have kids/ages? There are so many factors for each situation and the circumstances surrounding each situation but 2 years seems very long to live in limboland...
Yes, you are right...easier but harder and vice versa. If I could go NC but I cannot because I am finacially dependent on my H and until I get something legal done, I have to live in limbo. It truly sucks! What have you been doing for yourself? IC? GAL?
It's only been 7.5 weeks for me, although I spent 4 months post-PA bomb with W living at home before she moved out (she was physically present, but already emotionally separated). I have a REAL hard time wrapping my head around 2 years. I don't initiate calls/texts to W, but due to S7 living with me, have almost daily brief face-to-face contact.
I'm just now starting to detach a bit. The frequent contact makes this more difficult. Trying to GAL. Luckily, having S7 around keeps me busy. I've got my house in a LOT better shape over this time, played a lot of guitar (still suck, though), participating with son in Cub Scouts, working on a bathroom remodel (slowly), along with other things I fit in on Saturdays when S7 spends the night with W.
This forum is my IC right now. Nothing like a 24/7 group session to bounce your feelings, frustrations and questions off of!
Me 45 WAW 36 S8 T 15 M 12 Multiple PA's since 6/07 W moved out 10/25/09 I filed D 12/29/09 Sitch
I feel very foolish, but I don't know what some of the abbreviations stand for! What are: IC GAL and are NC an PA abbreviations or states?! Sorry if I sound silly asking!!
