I wrote out my goals for 2009 here last year. They revolved around my personal goals and getting our marriage back on solid ground. When I worked on my goals, business plan and family plans for 2010 I came to a realization that I need to honor for myself. We have a busy and full year ahead of us that covers a lot of ground that needs my full attention.
What I realised is that when I look thru my plans is that the time and energy I spend on DB is counterproductive to my other goals. I am going to curtail the time I spend here to help me achieve my other goals. I never expected to be a "vet" here, I never thought I would get to a hundred posts. This forum is a valuable tool for getting thru one of the most difficult periods in your life. I am grateful for what I have learned, the friends I have made and the support given to me here.
I will still check in and lurk. I will still pray for all of you. The Greek and I are being sponsored by our Diocese to attend Retro and become counselors so that it will be available in our area. I will continue to give back.
I appreciate you all more than you could know. Strength and Honor mates.
Cheers Coach
ps You can handle it.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
We have not "spoken" but I've learnt so much from reading what you post. I think you're going to be a great help to many in Retro. I think now of the couple who started it in my area many years ago, and you and Greek would be just so powerful a positive during the weekends ... the attendees who will attend are indeed blessed, notwithstanding the sitches that brought them there.
Thanks so much for giving so much. This board's loss will hopefully be the gain of couples and families in the "real world".
Me 42 W 39 Married: 11 Jan 1998, T: Since 1992 First Bomb: Sep 2007 Confirmed A/OM: 4 Nov 2007 Kids: D10, S5 Reconciled and together again after (alot of) time and heartbreak. 3rd kid, S, born 2 Jan 2010.
My best hopes and prayers go out to you and Greek.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
You taught me this most of all. Cheers Coach, and I thank the good Lord for your ministry to hurting marriages through Retro. You will be the light in a time of darkness for many people, as you have been for me personally.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
This forum is a valuable tool for getting thru one of the most difficult periods in your life. I am grateful for what I have learned, the friends I have made and the support given to me here.