Maybe it's my background in cocktail waitressing...
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
Had a good weekend. The kids loved the movie, dad did too. Went out Sat. night, asked W if she wanted to go. She seemed to consider it but said no, she had to work early in the morning. Her mom and dad and brother were there. Talked to them for a while. Got home @ 1:00. W was in decent mood all weekend. We even had sex Fri. night. Still not ML, but she wasn't drunk this time.
I guess she found the Hooter's receipt. I was paying for gas this morning and it took all of the money in my wallet. I looked in the bottom of wallet and it is gone. I had it folded up very small and you couldn't see the pink writing on it, just the back. I thought she might look at it but not take it. Oh, well. I guess we'll see what the backlash is from that. I don't really care too much at this point.
Her taking it is very good, and the backlash if any will be good as well. Act as if it is no big deal, let her wonder. DO not get upset at all with any thing she says about it.
Hope you're right, dburt. It is funny that she took it. Don't know why, but I'm sure I will find out. I will act as if nbd. Is she jealous though, or is she saying, see, I was right about this a$$hole? It does feel kind of good to make her wonder. How I handle it from here on out will tell if things have changed at all.
Yeah, no big deal, Some questions to ask her if and when she brings it up, (you do not) Have you had their wings? and I love their grouper sandwich, it is huge, have you seen it? Where is that receipt, I need it for tax purposes. lol
I did get some info from W's brother this weekend. From the start, she said that no one thought anything about her being at the bar with him back on Sept. Many of her family members were there. I didn't really believe her. Of course, she was lying. Her brother said he threatened to kick the guys ass that day. She told him they were just friends, he said B.S. Another time, he and other brother told her she was crazy to want to seperate, and she needed to grow up and work things out.
I know family will stick with family, but it's nice to know at least some of her family has called her out on her behavior. I'm sure she has left things out to make me look like the bad guy. Oh, well.
Still always working on detaching, and having patience. Baby steps. The Hooter's receipt is a big GAL. I guess it wasn't very obvious to her that it was just to make her jealous. I can't believe she took it, though! It really is pretty funny. After all she's done right in front of my face. It's my fault for putting up with all of it from the start. No more. I'm not the person that I need to be yet, but am getting better and learning more every day.
I continue to draw strength from God, my kids and my family. All of you here are a big source of strength too. Thanks to everyone! I still need strength and will need to be pulled up out of the pits from time to time. I can do this!
W was totally pissy tonight. I wonder why? Oh, well, if it wasn't that, it would be something or nothing else. Not my problem.
While she was helping two older boys with homework, I got two younger one showers and then played Lightning McQueen and Barbie's with them. Yeah, I know, great combination, but with a little boy and little girl, you have to make what play time you have something they can all do.
When the boys were done in the shower, she laid on the recliner and went to sleep. She told me to wake her up and remind her to turn the dishwasher on. I put all the kids to bed and turned it on myself, I can handle it.
I will wake her up once and tell her I am going to bed. I won't ask if she's coming, if she wants to, fine, if not, also fine.
Steady, patient, happy, detach-thing I must do or be.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
While she was helping two older boys with homework, I got two younger one showers and then played Lightning McQueen and Barbie's with them. Yeah, I know, great combination, but with a little boy and little girl, you have to make what play time you have something they can all do.
When the boys were done in the shower, she laid on the recliner and went to sleep. She told me to wake her up and remind her to turn the dishwasher on. I put all the kids to bed and turned it on myself, I can handle it.
Can I just speak for women-kind out there and say thank you?! You helped with the kids and made sure the dishes were covered. Regardless of what you guys are going through right now or how your wife views you right now, you were a superb husband, father and person this evening. Bravo! Way to go!
Something I continue to do today, Try to be supperb husband, father and person everyday, not for my marriage, but because it is the right thing to do. I bet I ask myself this question 5 or 6 times today, what is the right thing to do?
