HDWife trying for happier life

[HDwife]

OY, StarvingArtist - I am so sorry to hear your plight. I totally empathize. Good luck in your sitch.

Daddio - "slip something in his drink, he is your husband after all" - LOL. You make me laugh. I can see the headlines now, "Horny wife arrested for slipping a roofie to unsuspecting husband".

YAH - my hubby is even more uncomfortable with erotica than he is with under the covers sex... it's kinda funny/sad - we were having sex on Sat nt, and since we had sex the nt b4 (yay us, tho I can't recall the last time we had sex 2 days in a row but looking forward to more of them!), I had quite the happy orgasm. I guess I was a bit louder than usual and he was like, "shhh, shhh" (tho I assure you it was more moaning than screaming, and certainly no "come on baby, %()C& me harder" kinda talk). This at home in the middle of the nite with 1 kiddo off at a sleepover and the other across the house. While he can move quite nicely, thank you very much, sensory overload makes it awkward... thus no lights, under covers, not too much noise, etc. I don't know how to get past it - don't know if sex will ever be comfortable enough to just be playful and enjoy each other's company for the entire ride beyond it's destination.

[DaddyLongShanks]

HDwife,

Does he like oysters?

[HDwife]

I saw avatar last night. Fabulously trite. I wonder if things would be better or worse between my marital legs if I had a funky ponytail to plug into and "see" the other side of the equation more clearly.

Am on the low down of the cycle - been almost 2weeks since last romp. All I asked for on mothers day was a card/sex from my dh. Of course I got neither, probably because I asked. Sigh. Double sigh.

Trying to count my blessings... We are alive and healthy, right? I don't have to visit roadside graves to maintain flower shrines. I get pancakes and a cafe au lait just as I like for breakfast and a nice dinner out followed by a movie with cuddling on the couch. Why am not more thankful?

Because all i wanted for mothers day was to practice how I became a mother and since that didn't happen, it eclipses everything else.

Aaaaarrrrgggg.

[SpinFree]

I saw avatar last night. Fabulously trite. I wonder if things would be better or worse between my marital legs if I had a funky ponytail to plug into and "see" the other side of the equation more clearly.

Best remake of "Dances with Wolves" ever. (Until they come out with F-Troop, the movie.)

Am on the low down of the cycle - been almost 2weeks since last romp. All I asked for on mothers day was a card/sex from my dh. Of course I got neither, probably because I asked. Sigh. Double sigh.

Trying to count my blessings... We are alive and healthy, right? I don't have to visit roadside graves to maintain flower shrines. I get pancakes and a cafe au lait just as I like for breakfast and a nice dinner out followed by a movie with cuddling on the couch. Why am not more thankful?

Because all i wanted for mothers day was to practice how I became a mother and since that didn't happen, it eclipses everything else.

Aaaaarrrrgggg.

I get you. You try to live abundantly but you want you need that missing connection to your spouse.

Last anniversary, my wife did everything perfectly. She dressed up. She flirted. She engaged me. I was FURIOUS. Now! Today? Really! You've been capable of this all along and can't or won't??!? I can't explain the reaction but there it was. I didn't think it was real. I couldn't buy in to the masquerade. There was just hurt and rejection on the other side.

It was not the right thing to do.

I am upping my game and pressing her hand.

SpinFree

[HDwife]

My new husband is my vibrator. At least it doesn't reject me... That what I told dh when he left to get a beer tonite. His response - what about when it doesn't have batteries? Wow - was that a barb or is he being poetic? I know he's stressed out (4mos since corporate America shoved it's boot up his @ss) but is it really appropriate to get out when you haven't gotten in first?