CW - I'm sorry that you are having a hard day. I understand your frustration. Worring about money on the top of all the other stress always brings me to the edge of my limits.
As to calling him to talk about finances; I would be inclined to say to wait until you talk to your layer. Maybe he will have some ideas about how to best approach WH about it.
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Mila, you are right. I will just wait and talk to L. Obviously, H does not care what is going on with us at the moment. I think that the L can get things going for child/spousal support, not sure how quick that will be but probably something I should have done earlier...
You know, I can handle that he left me, harder to handle that he cose someone else over his kids but I having the hardest time handling that we may lose our home and security too.
Was going to cancel plans to go to SIL's but decided, wth...there goes my savings!!!
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CW, I have no useful advice, except to let your lawyer handle the details.
Your husband seems to think that he gets his divorce, but nothing changes???!!!
Yeah, right..EVERYTHING changes when a marriage is split due to divorce. I cannot say I know from personal experience, but I've seen so many relationships where the one who files thinks nothing will change, but it DOES..and it takes the filer by surprise.
Oh, and the divorced guy who's chasing you...tell him to take a hike, and don't be nice about it, either...he KNOWS you're still married, but has no shame, it seems. Do what you want, but I've gotten testy/angry with people who tried that with me.
Try to have a good weekend in spite of everything that's going on.
I'm at home, husband's doing well. Son is doing fine, as usual.
Have a good one.
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
I can't seem to get myself over being so sad. I keep telling myself that nothing has changed except that money just got a whole lot tighter...I just don't know what will be rock bottom for my H but it won't be money. Being in debt is not new to him and doubt it will affect him at all.
Just not hopeful about anything right now! Will be good to get outta here for awhile..
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CW, When my WH left us he was saying to his daughter "don't worry nothing will change, I will take care of everything, life for you will go on as before". Few months later, looks like I have to sell the house and business in on the verge of going under. He doesn't seem to comprehend the impact his choices have on my and daughter's life...or he just doesn't give it damn what will happen to us.
I'm sorry, I have no answers :(((
Go and have some fun and try not to obsess about money; it will sort it self out. We will survive
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When they are in replay they seem to have no concept or care what effects their actions have on children or the LBS. As long as they are doing what makes them 'happy' they could care less about the damage they cause. After all, they're entitled.
Hi CW, I had a bit of a chance to read your threads and see where you are now. My heart goes out to you and I am hoping that you get a bit more clarity this week. Glad you are feeling better today and pray that it is a good week. {{{CW}}}!
Hi erynfaye...welcome to my world! I have been doing better but guess it kinda hit me this weekend and let myself get down...working my way back up!
SA-yes, needed to recharge and was thankful to get away from here. Was weird that what got me thru the weekend was H's family! They are being hurt by him too! It is obvious that I need to gal more...
At least the sun is out today and it might be one of those days where I can get the windows open and some fresh air in!
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