I've been away for a while after needing a break and getting part of my life back on track again. I am here mainly for friendship and continue on this journey of healing that takes more time than I thought, it's a process that never ends, but gets better with time. I'm looking to see if any "old friends" are still on these boards - I miss talking to ya!!!
So far I'm just keeping busy at being a full time dad, along with my XW. Tried the dating thing, but somehow its not as important as making my daughter first in my life, just waiting to meet the right lady. So here I am - surviving as a single parent.
~Sol
~Sol
~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Single Dad, and luvin it! ~ Happiness is a state of mind ~
Hey Sol, I too am still doing that parenting thing. I get the kids one week and STBX gets them the next. I'm thankful that I have that, I know most guys get one weekend every two weeks and an evening per week. My kids are 16 and 12 now, they are at the stage where they don't need Dad (or Mom) as much anymore and that's another adjustment I have to get used to. Anyway, good to have you back and doing well!
Hey guys! Thanks for joining in! I kinda lucked out with my daughter, we got joint everything, including joint physical custody so my daughter sleeps at my place during the week but we trade every other weekend. First thing I did after crazy XW pulled my kid out of school was to get her a cell phone, and it's worked out great. I talk to my XW less this way! One of the biggest things that has worked for me was to not be involved with my X in any shape or form whatsoever. I decided she is no longer part of my life, just part of my kid's life, and what we had was what we had. It's been a bumpy road adjusting, but I have my sanity living alone and doing what I wanna do. Most if not all of the emotional trauma has drained away now (part of rebuilding), the only thing that's left is that my X sometimes appears in my dreams for some strange ungodly reason, and I'm like what the $%#$? So I'm working on creating some dream rottweilers to chase her off when she does appear since she is terrified of dogs - ALL dogs! Then I can go back to my normal dreams that make absolutely no sense at all.
My daughter just turned 11 and I got her her first pet, a hamster with a cool cage. I'm trying to work my way to getting a puppy (not sure what breed yet), but she likes Beagles. I don't have the luxury of an enclosed yard being in this cramped apartment, so maybe it's time to move to a townhouse in the near future. Also need to make more income so I can afford the pup, which is like having another kid! LOL. But it's totally worth it, I like dogs (cats too) but having a dog around will actually get me off my lazy butt and go to the park and get some exercise! Maybe I can even meet someone of the opposite sex that I am actually attracted to!??! I know I have some extra poundage I just need to get rid of - a canine companion will do wonders for that. Beagles are cute, but I'm more of a big dog person -I am learning.
~Sol
~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Single Dad, and luvin it! ~ Happiness is a state of mind ~
Hey Sol.. Great to see you doing so well. I'm with you - focusing on my daughter. Not too much in the dating scene at the moment and totally ok with it for now!
The living arrangements are always an issue. I'm in a townhouse, but it doesn't allow dogs or cats and the neighbor keeps complaining the 7-year-old is too loud.
So I'm on the lookout for a house to rent.
Good news on the custody. In my case, I'm hoping for a 50/50 split. Right now the girls are with her 64 percent of the nights although I seem them 86 percent of the days.
D11 has a phone but W won't buy her any minutes so I have to go through W to talk to them. But since I see them almost every day it's not that big of an issue.
How did you end up with custody -- agreement or fight it out in court?
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It's great reading about how involved you are with your daughter. When it comes to a dog, look at personalities and traits.
My parameter was a great pooch whose body was no higher than the coffee table. Next time I'll factor in poop size. The smaller the dog, the less to scoop and/or inadvertently step in.
In the end it comes down to the look in the eye and the thump of the tail. A connection that goes back ages.
