How much longer in Separated?

[jon2911]

New thread time! Will post the end of my last thread.

Last thread:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1955194&page=1

[jon2911]

The weekend went well, FIL caused trouble on Saturday making W do a lot more work than he'd promised, but I went with the flow and killed time around Houston. Visited the San Jacinto Monument, rode a ferry, and drove through the only underwater tunnel in Texas.

We went to her grandparents Ranch on Saturday night and dropped some furniture off. It's one of our favorite places and it was nice to visit. We then hit the Museum of Natural Science with free tickets on Sunday.

I wanted to stay at the Ranch on Saturday night, because FIL had already packed W's bed and moved it during the day, but she was scared about her family. W is legally a part-owner of the place, she's 27 years old, and she's scared to stay the night. I really got steamed over this, but kept my mouth shut. How much longer will she let them treat her like she's 5? She's always been the baby of the family, and never broken out of that.

The washer, dryer and dishes loaded up just fine. W also gave me her turtle, which is huge. I've been wanting a pet, and Sheldon will be perfect. We cleaned his tank together, and went over his food, etc.

As I was packing up the last few things to leave, W handed me some snacks for the road and I could see she was crying. I made a few more trips, then came in and hugged her for a while. She said "I don't want to move". I told her she did a really good job with the place, that I always enjoyed visiting and she knows how to make a place feel like home. "Now you'll have most of the stuff" she said, and I agreed. I told her Sheldon said she has to come visit soon.

At work yesterday, the owner came back and told us about his vacation. He also said the insurance has raised his rates by 65%, so he's getting quotes from other companies. He had forms for us to fill out, and I kept W off for now. There were a lot of questions about being on Disability and Medicare that could get really sticky. He's been paying 100% of the health benefits, but said he can't do that any more with the price increase. Wow, I'm so ticked.

I related the price increase to W, and she asked softly if I'd consider putting her on my benefits. I told her I would, that as long as we're still married it's something I'd like to do. She said "thank you Jon". Later she e-mailed that her account is overdrawn, and could I pay her for the furniture and appliances. I told her there's $100 in the joint account for now, but I'll need to get some numbers back from the owner and then we'll talk. I think she should have to pay her share of the insurance while she still lives in Houston. Ugh. BAD timing on this price increase. I really hope Obama can completely overhaul this system. 65% increase, no reason, these insurance companies are a bunch of sleazebags. I'm really starting to worry that my company is too small to deal with W's health problems. We'll see.

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W just texted that she worked it out with the bank, if she can deposit $388 they'll waive the NSF charges. I asked her how she overdrew this much, and she said an autodraft came through that she wasn't expecting.

I logged into her account to double-check the info, saying it wasn't because I didn't trust her, but I wanted to double-check what the bank person had told her, because she can't get online. Everything matched. One COBRA check put her under, a couple small charges after that, so 4 NSF's at $38 a pop. Been there, done that. I transferred her the money and complemented her on dealing with the branch on this.

It's good to know she's still paying COBRA. For all I knew she wasn't. A quick glance at her account showed that she's been truthful about other things she's told me. Feels good to know that, and to be able to help. Time to keep on keeping on.

[MichelleLT]

Glad to see the trust and communication continuing. Seems like you two are working well together as partners. Also nice to see she is being very honest with you!

[jon2911]

hi Jon. may Christ's love shine through you my bro'.

t

Thanks T! Appreciate it.

Glad to see the trust and communication continuing. Seems like you two are working well together as partners. Also nice to see she is being very honest with you.

I have to admit, it's a bit scary. Things have turned and I need to be careful and manage expectations and expect a bit of pull-back when she actually makes this move. Hell, I've been through all this before.

[jon2911]

No talk with W last night, got my Harley out of parking and took a ride. Got a text from her at 2:35 AM "I'm sorry I missed your call. I hope your day went well. Gnight"

Trying to prepare myself for the new normal. I think she'll be happier to have family around for a little while before getting tired of them. Hopefully she'll be less stressed and feel better as well.

Today I noticed an e-mail from her text account, subject "Sheldon the Turtle" and giving instructions for taking care of him. She must be missing him.

Got a text from her today asking for me to look up something, but I didn't get it in time. She loves the Ranch, her favorite place in the world. I hope she has a good time.

I'm off to Austin on the Harley as soon as work ends at 6:00. Absolutely beautiful day, a little windy but I'll deal with it. Weekend almost here!

[jon2911]

Great weekend, spent with my Dad and brother at a worship conference. Got to hang out with Lincoln Brewster and Kari Jobe, very cool people. Also, one of my best friends is playing guitar in Kari's band now, and I didn't even know it. Crazy to run into him in San Antonio.

I have to admit it was hard to get to know these nationally-known artists, when I really want to be doing what they're doing. Hard to stay content.

W texted a few times Friday night while I was driving, then called Saturday. I ducked out of the conference, surprised she was calling during a family weekend. She was feeling terrible and ended up sleeping all day after calling me.

Sunday I went to a Dallas hockey game. The day was absolutely beautifual, really enjoyed the ride in from Austin and more riding after the game. It was nice to have an extra hour before sunset. Spring, finally! Talked with W for about an hour before going to bed early. She had a much better day Sunday and enjoyed the family time.

After I let her go, she called back 20 minutes later, saying sarcastically she had exciting news. A guy from my previous band has gone and made it big in Nashville, his band is called Love and Theft. W said Target has exclusive autographed LnT CD's. She laughed about it. She's always skeptical and sarcastic of musicians, especially if she knows them.

I told her I've decided to root for Brian to make it even bigger, just to prove her wrong. I told her when he makes it on her beloved Perez Hilton site, then I'll make her eat her words. LOL. It was a nice talk.

[MichelleLT]

LOL

I swear you two are just in a long-distance M right now.

Seeing each other some weekends, ML, talking daily.

Sheesh! Lucky man. LOL

[jon2911]

Ha ha! I'm enjoying it.

Riding my motorcycle to and from work, I missed a couple calls from work. Tried to call her before band practice, left a VM. Right after getting home I got a text: Where are you?

Sadface. LOL. I called her and we had a good talk. She thought about me several times while driving 4 hours from the Ranch back to her grandparents. Even said "I wish you were with me". She hasn't had to spend much time stuck with them yet, we'll see how this week goes.

[jon2911]

Nice talk with W last night. Turns out she's heading to Austin to hang out with a high school friend. It's SXSW week, AKA the massive "South By" convention, so her plans are up in the air.

I told her I'm heading through after camping with my brothers on Sunday and she said we should do dinner. Tentatively of course, but we did something like that a year ago when she was visiting the same friend.

Text from W at 2:15 AM "I'm laying here thinking about how amazing you felt last time. We've still got it."

Yikes! Trying to focus on work, instead of thinking about the execution of her motorcycle promise. Drew and SM over on Kevin's thread have given me some ideas...

[Goodfight]

Hi Jon,

Was just catching up on your thread. Seems like things are going really good for you lately with W. I'm happy for you.

Could you jump over to my thread? Could use some input or advice if you have a chance.

Thanks